So after reading through some of the other posts I am really upset about what to do. My wedding is in Oct. of 2014 so we have some time to decide what to do about my mom.
Back story: My parents got divorced in 2008 when I was 19. During that time my mom kicked me out and I had to live with my dad and grandma. My dad remarried and I live with him and my stepmother. It was 2 years before my mom and I spoke again. So we slowly started to talk again and involve each other in our lives. She dated people off and on then in January of 2012 she started to date this guy. He was dd but I didn't see it lasting long.
In late March 2012 she sat down with my fiance (boyfriend at the time, not engaged yet) and said she broke up with this guy and she wants to get a restraining order against him because he was stalking her!!!! She wanted us to keep away from him and not make contact with him. We said ok and told her we will keep an eye out. In April she got back with the guy because he was re-baptized and a better man. I warned her of my concern and she ignored me. In May they got engaged! I told her that this guy seems fishy and I do not trust him. She told me that I was just jealous I was not engaged yet. I said that is not what it was but out of concern for you and my sister who still comes over to your house (sister is 12). She said not to worry she will not make the same mistakes she made with my father because everything she had with my father was a mistake. Ouch.
I took a job and moved about an hour away. I came back in November and I asked if I could get a couple things that were still at her house. She said ok. He wasn't supposed to be there. But he was. He started telling my boyfriend that I am a horrible person. When I tried to talk to my mom he kept interjecting and when my boyfriend had enough he said to please stay out of this it is between them, he called him a punk little boy and threatening both of us. I was scared this guy might do something so I looked into a restraining order. However, we did not get one yet. They were getting married in December and I did not go because of this guy.
My fiance and I are now back in our hometown and this guy still is causing issues. I resigned from my position and he is telling people that I got fired, etc. I know my wedding is a year away and things could change by then but I do not want this man at the wedding. I would feel bad not having my mom there just because she is my mom but I do not want this guy there. I have read from other posts that it would be rude not to invite him because he is my mom's husband but with all the things he has said and done to my fiance and I, we can't stand to have him at our happy day. Some insight please...