So I'm getting married in November. My parents are going through the most heinous divorce in history. They have been at it for nearly 3 years now and this is round 2. To make a very long and complicated story short, my father transferred a company that owns our family business office property to my sister and I way back in 2007 before they were contemplating divorce. He says this was for family investment planning purposes so it would be safe from any potential problems and could not be taken away in the event of a lawsuit or similar problem. She now says that it was all to take it away from her for his eventual plan of their divorce.
So now I own this property my mother wants but it was mortgaged and is underwater and I couldn't give it to her if I wanted to. (Legal contractual stuff with the bank)
So now 2 months before my wedding my mother and her attorneys have amended the divorce petition to include me as a defendant alleging fraud and conspiracy with my father to deprive her of marital property and all sorts of stuff. My mother is suing me in her divorce!!!
To top it all off I have graduated law school, have been studying for the Tx Bar exam and had to report being sued for fraud in my application to take the bar!
So here is the question: should I uninvited my mother to my wedding?
Of all the things a girl is supposed to do in her life with her mother there are 2 big events- your birth and your wedding! How could I possibly have her there and how can I not?
My dad,of all people, says I should forgive and have her there and not let anger at her poison me but, I am simply terrified that the negativity and crazy of this divorce and of her will override MY big day. It is supposed to be a celebration of the love my fiancé and I have not an, awkward at best, insane and horrendous at worst, family reunion where their issues overwhelm the first steps we take in our life together.
So what should I do? And if I don't invite her do I invite her side of the family? Mutual family friends?
I'm at a loss and completely devastated. Please help!