So glad to hear so many brides taking the steps to try and please everyone as far as reception seating. Yes all parties should act as adults and deal with it for the sake of the children. I am and always have been willing but, For my sons reception (10 hours away) his dad threatened to throw a scene if I showed up with my boyfriend of 3 years, he made such a fuss for months before the wedding, initially my BF was not invited. My son later said BF could come but, we would be seated far apart.. fine with me. So Dad was seated with all of his family and my daughter and her family directly in front of the bridal table, while my mom, BF and I were seated in a corner of the room with the photographer and 6 very nice people we didn't know, Who wondered why the mog was in the corner. (Dad then did not even show up for the reception until one of my sons went and got him) I was hurt and humiliated, so please, please carefully work on solutions for as many situations as you can.