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Is this a good idea or a bad one?

Wedqueen12Wedqueen12 member
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I'm just curious as to whether or not inviting my coworkers to my wedding is a good idea or a bad idea? I like a lot of the people I work with and would love for some of them to attend; but obviously I can't invite everyone.....is it a good idea to just invite a few coworkers or should I avoid the drama altogether?
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Re: Is this a good idea or a bad one?

  • GypsyWife_GypsyWife_ member
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    If it were me I'd invite them. When my daughter hasa birthday party iI invite only her friends not the whole class. But I dont hand out the invites at school. So I would mail them all and discreetly get addresses for mailing.
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  • WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl member
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    I invited 1 co-worker, someone I knew before we worked together and hung out with outside of work.  Feel free to invite those co-workers you'd like to be there, but send their invites to their house and try to minimize wedding chat in front of those who are not invited.  Nothing like someone waving a wedding invite they received in front of you when you're not going to get one to make you feel bad.  

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  • allispainallispain member
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    DH wanted to invite one of his coworkers to our wedding, but not anyone else from work. She is someone that we both had spent time with outside of his work (we'd been to her house for dinner and she'd been to ours as well, we would meet up for drinks, etc.). In other words, she wasn't just a coworker, she was a friend. Because of that, we felt fine inviting her and only her from his work. We just sent the invitation to her home address.
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  • silver0319silver0319 member
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    WinstonsGirl said:
    I invited 1 co-worker, someone I knew before we worked together and hung out with outside of work.  Feel free to invite those co-workers you'd like to be there, but send their invites to their house and try to minimize wedding chat in front of those who are not invited.  Nothing like someone waving a wedding invite they received in front of you when you're not going to get one to make you feel bad.  

    This. I'm a teacher, and am only inviting my teaching partner and her SO (also a coworker I've been friends with for 6 years), and 2 other work friends I've known for 4+ years. FI is inviting his entire office (8 people plus SOs). He's friends with most of them outside of work and felt like he couldn't leave 1 or 2 people out.
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    Wedqueen12 said:
    I'm just curious as to whether or not inviting my coworkers to my wedding is a good idea or a bad idea? I like a lot of the people I work with and would love for some of them to attend; but obviously I can't invite everyone.....is it a good idea to just invite a few coworkers or should I avoid the drama altogether?
    As long as you aren't inviting the vast majority.  For example, inviting 8 coworkers and there's only 10 in the office.  And like PPs mentioned, send the invites to their houses and keep wedding talk down in the office.
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  • Xstatic3333Xstatic3333 member
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    I regret not inviting my closest work friend and my two supervisors, but every situation is different. My boss would not stop wanting to chat wedding, and it just made things awkward.
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  • emmyg65emmyg65 member
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    What's the rule that grade school teachers use for birthday invites? Invite less than half the class, or invite the whole class? I think that rule would work well for offices as well.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    It depends on your size office.  If you work for a very small company, like 10 people and you want to invite all but 1 that could be a potential issue.  Now if you work for a large company where there are over 300 people in your building you could easily invite the few that you would like.

    I didn't invite any of my co-workers.  I had wanted to but our guest list was already pretty much at the max so I opted out.  My FI invited 2 co-workers but he works with a crap ton of people.

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  • gmcr78gmcr78 member
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    We opted not to invite any of mine, but one of his who he has become pretty good friends with.  I'm not particularly close to any of my coworkers, and we don't really hang out outside of work with the exception of the occasional work related happy hour. 
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  • maebryjames89maebryjames89 member
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    It cant hurt to invite the people you are close to, you should feel comfortable knowing you are sharing your wedding day with people that you really care about. I do agree you should do the invites sent to their house and if they are close with you they will respect the fact that you invited just them and not flaunt it. 
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  • RaineHRaineH member
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    I'm having a destination wedding, on a tight budget with a limited guest list so I only invited the bosses.
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