A little background info - this is my second wedding, my FI's first. He's turning 40 next week and owns a house. Between the two of us, we have more than enough stuff. We're paying for the wedding and honeymoon ourselves.I'm not having a shower and I'm not registering. We don't want any gifts at all, including cash. We live in NY, where it's pretty common that people show up to weddings with an envelope with a check or cash. It's tacky to have "No gifts, please" printed on our wedding invites, right? Are we better off trying to spread the word by mouth? Either way, I just feel uncomfortable broaching the subject, you know? Help!