My parents are paying for most of my wedding with me picking up the difference. We are expecting 140 guests plus the bridal party at $150pp. My guest list consists of my close family, friends, and colleagues. My fiancé's list includes his parents, siblings, their kids, and a few close friends. My fiancé's mother wants my fiance to add her siblings (who she barely speaks to), their kids, and 4 friends.
We live in Miami but we are getting married in NY where I grew up. My fiancé's mother has siblings and friends who she says would love to come to our wedding. Who wouldn't want to come to a wedding? My stance is that these people are not close to my fiancé and have not seen or spoken to him in over 10 years. If my fiancé's mom wants to entertain these people, it should be on her dime. My fiancé's parents have not offered to contribute financially or in labor to our wedding. She hasn't even called and asked my mother if there is anything that she could do.
It's well known in my fiance's family that his parents are cheap. For his birthday (at the surprise party that I threw for him), his mom gave him an empty card and wrote inside, "I owe you your favorite Sunday dinner." She cooks a variation of the same meal every Sunday. For Christmas, she gave each child a picture of her and her husband that they had taken on a cruise. My fiancé's parents have never taken him out for a meal at Applebee's or even McDonald's. His parents are always entertaining friends at their home and they expect everyone to drop what they're doing to come and meet them. If my fiancé's mother wants to see her family and friends while she's in town for our wedding, that's fine, but I should not be expected to invite them to our reception. They are not close to me or my fiancé and if it were not for our wedding, she wouldn't be visiting them at all. She just wants to show off.
Am I wrong?