I'm seriously considering it at this point, FI just can't decide yes or no. We wanted a super laid back, drama and stress free wedding. We decided to do St. Thomas because we wanted a beach wedding, people could come and have a vacation, and it would be a lot of fun. Well, it's been nothing but stress, drama, and craziness with FI's family. We set up a room block to try and save people money, at first we did all inclusive and they bitched and whined and complained about the price. So, we changed it to room rates only and they could find their own food. His sibling spent HOURS on the phone with our travel agent running her around in different directions only to tell her, 'never mind we'll book it ourselves online.'
Fast forward to today, and I get an email from the travel agent who is obviously flustered at this point. FI's mom called saying she was ready to book her room, but it HAD to be close to his sibling. She wants a completely different room grade, which isn't even in the same wing on the hotel map. So she's rude to the travel agent and says she'll have to get back to her. We've also found out that people have booked outside the block, which is fine but we have to fill 13 rooms (didn't figure it'd be hard with family and such) or we are responsible for paying for them.
At this point, we can back out of the room block and the wedding ceremony and just lose our deposits...which I am all about. I told FI this morning, this has been more of a hassle then any wedding item I've ever had to deal with. I just want to elope. My mom and several family members have offered to keep my kids (it's my second wedding, first marriage ended after he threatened to kill me and beat me up). I'm all about running off for 10 days, having a blast in the Caribbean or wherever and getting married in a small ceremony with just us. It would save a lot of money, headaches, stress, etc, FI has been stressed out, grumpy, irritable, etc since all of this has come to light.
I know it's our decision to make, but any thoughts or insights or something I may have missed? I already have my dress and could still wear it. Only thing I see is my kids wouldn't be involved in the wedding, but we would have a big party to celebrate with our friends and family a little bit after returning.