To Register, or not to Register?

pinkcow13 · October 2013

So I wonder if my Fiance and I should register for our wedding or not? What do you Knottie's think? The last 3 weddings that we went to, the bride and groom did not register and we gave them money. Since we have lived on our own, we do not need anything for the home, and I would much rather receive money, but I don't think you are supposed to ask for money. My friend told me she is not going to register and instead will have a honeymoon fund. I think there are also websites where guests can leave cash contributions. I am pretty new to all this, so I am not to sure what the proper etiquette would be - any help is greatly appreciated

daria24 · October 2013

First-it's perfectly fine to not register.

Second-please don't use honeyfund or any other "cash registry" site. They're rude, because asking for cash is rude, and also they are deceptive. The site will say you are registering for a couples massage, or dinner, or a snorkeling excursion, but in reality, you are just getting a check for the amount listed, minus a service fee. Most of your guests are going to give you cash anyway, without you even asking for it, so why give up 3-7% for a third party site, KWIM?

Third-I would try and create a small registry. There are always a few guests who prefer to give physical gifts, and without a registry they might pick out a 20lb crystal cake plate that will sit in the back of your cupboard for 25 years. But I don't think you have to worry about too many physical gifts, since people in this area almost always give cash.

pinkcow13 · October 2013

Thank You Daria24! Your post was extremely helpful.I did not even know that those sites charged service fees, but I guess obviously they would! I must say I never went to a wedding where the couple had a honeyfund or something like it, and I thought it seemed rude but then I thought maybe that's what couples do now? I think that would be the best route to go then, a small registry [after all there is always something we could use!]

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