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Who carries Flowers???

Barb&RodneyBarb&Rodney member
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I'm getting married next week!  Nov 9, 2013.  Its in the Catholic church, and the Deacon going over the ceremony with us explained that they now want the groom and his parents to walk down the aisle before the Bride and her parents. Ok, that's great.  BUT -  1st, FI and I are in our 40's. All of our parents are alive, but both of his are not well, neither is able to walk with him. so he is having his 2 daughters walk down the aisle with him. they are in their 20's.  So do i need to get them boquets? or corsages?   Knowing these girls, they will not be wearing anything that you could pin a flower onto, and i just cant see them appreciating or wearing a wrist corsage.  So a small boquet? or nothing?

My Mom says dont worry about it. I dont want to be rude.  His 2 sons are acting as ushers, both will have a boutinnier (sp?). we each only will have 1 attendant. my daughter is MOH, and his brother is BM. all parents will have corsages / boutinniers.

So what do i do with these girls?  I ordered my flowers months ago, so now i know i can order additional flowers if i must, but ... ??? HELP!

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Re: Who carries Flowers???

  • Teddy917Teddy917 member
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    Just ask them if they'd like to carry/wear anything.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    Ask them. I know as a 24 year old, I wouldn't want anything. 
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  • Simky906Simky906 member
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    If it's really a concern to you then give them options. Tell them that you were thinking of giving them bouquets or wrist corsages but you wanted to see if they had a preference- or whether they don't want flowers. I don't think you have to get them flowers at all but that's a decision you can make together.
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    The woman who designed our flowers did the corsages so they could either go on the wrist or be pinned on.   
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  • erinlin25erinlin25 member
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    if anything get them a wrist corsage; but it would not matter either way if you choose to get anything at all. Are you close to them?  Ask of have your FI ask if they would like the corsage?
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    Ask them what they would prefer, if any. 

    I think a corsage (either pinned or wrist) would be appropriate. Bouquet seems a bit odd, unless they are in the wedding party. 
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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    Ask them what they would prefer, if any. 

    I think a corsage (either pinned or wrist) would be appropriate. Bouquet seems a bit odd, unless they are in the wedding party. 
     
     
    STUCK IN BOX:  I agree with this, just ask them and don't sweat it!
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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    These are your future stepdaughters...even though they are adults! Just communicate with them. They will appreciate your thoughtfulness and consideration.

    It's sweet that they agreed to walk with their dad :-)
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  • Barb&RodneyBarb&Rodney member
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    thanks everyone. I am not close to them. Actually, very little communication with his children at all. Believe me, i've tried.

    I talked to the florist, she said a small bouquet, so that's what i ordered, if they want to carry or not, i really dont care. I wont let this small of a thing ruin the day.  They'll know i didnt 'forget' them, or overlook them, so their very precious feeling won't be hurt, and if they dont like it, i hope they just talk to each other about how horrible i am.  Because I tried.

     

    4 M o r e  d a y s !!!!!!

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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    Barb&Rodney said:

    thanks everyone. I am not close to them. Actually, very little communication with his children at all. Believe me, i've tried.

    I talked to the florist, she said a small bouquet, so that's what i ordered, if they want to carry or not, i really dont care. I wont let this small of a thing ruin the day.  They'll know i didnt 'forget' them, or overlook them, so their very precious feeling won't be hurt, and if they dont like it, i hope they just talk to each other about how horrible i am.  Because I tried.

     

    4 M o r e  d a y s !!!!!!

    I know you won't listen to me, but if I were you, I'd cut the attitude regarding your FI's daughters.

    It made me cringe a little to read this post with the lack of maturity. You're 40, and you're commenting like a 16 year old. No wonder why they apparently think you're "horrible".

    Hopefully with the Sacrament you're about to receive, you'll choose to become more accepting and humble in your marriage.


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  • MsEliza111MsEliza111 member
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    They're in their 20s, according to the OP.
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