we were just engaged Dec 12th, a few days my fiance told his mom, just to let him know, he asked me to marry him and that we were engaged and we set a date for June 27, 2015. She said congrats, then right after that went into a TOTAL money discussion for 20 minutes. Starting and repeating over and over to him again, "make sure you don't spend too much, I just gone done paying for your sisters wedding (over 30,000) 2 years ago) He's the oldest child, and there is one younger sister between the three of them. She asked, well, her family is paying for all of it right? The brides family is supposed to pay for it." He told her (since she really hasn't gotten to know me yet) I only have 2 sisters. No relatives. Then goes to, well, make sure you don't spend too much. We can help a little, but not a lot.
I already never really cared for his mom, he really doesn't either. I think it REALLY upsets him more than he says and shows that that's all she could stop talking about and how his mom just paid for an entire wedding for his sister, and isn't really willing to do much for him.
We had been talking about getting engaged for months. We said when we did, WE were going to set a budget and guest list where WE could afford and pay for it ourselves. We aren't and werent looking for help. She's sort of more on my bitter side because she reacted like that to him. He was just expressing happiness. She just thought "money"
When we told his dad (his mom and dad were divorced and live a state away) we called them, they both spoke to us on speaker phone and were so excited, his dads wife said we will have to celebrate and "welcome to the family" to me" They came up this past weekend. It happened to be around dinner time so I made them dinner and some dessert. They greeted us with gifts, we talked more, they were excited, my fiance told his dad what his mom had said, and his dad and step mom had such a disappointed look on their face, like a (that's so wrong/terrible) We explained we set a budget, we plan on paying for it ourselves, and his dad and step mom said they insist on helping with the costs of the wedding. It would make them very happy.
His moms reaction just makes us want to elope on a beach in Florida... Without her around. Especially since my fiance and his father said they know when his sister gets married (shes not even engaged) her mom will likely pay they entire wedding bill.. Just a rant.