Long story short, we are paying for our wedding ourselves and I'm graduating college a few months prior. We slimed down our guest list to our close family and friends (including the children and dates we settled on 70) 35 on each side. I called my aunt who is out-of-state to wish her a Merry Christmas and she mentioned how some of my cousins and other family who live in a totally different state are upset they did not receive a save the date and were already planning a trip to come for the wedding. I explained that we would love for everyone to come but as 2 relatively young people paying for it ourselves with student loans on the side, it is not feasible for us. This is family that lives 10 hours away an I haven't heard from in over a year... They know of our engagement via Facebook. I would love for everyone to come, but we can not afford it! One of my older cousins actually told my mom, "We (as in her and the 4 others in her own immediate family) are coming even if we don't get an invite." How else can I handle this other than telling them the truth because that obviously isn't working. That particular cousin is just 1 of many we had to cut off the guest list. Not to mention, her and I speak maybe once every 2 years when I road trip up to see family. Help!