My FI have been together for two years and became recently engaged. Our relationship is wonderful, and very healthy we openly communicate about all things, except one... his mother. When we first got together she was wonderful and very supportive however about six months into the relationship she became very overbearing and passive agressive, (ex. asking me if my FI would be avaible to do something on a certain day and me saying no knowing that we already had plans and her telling me that it was fine to my face, and then calling my FI crying and guilting him, resulting in tension when it is brought up for discussion.) She has given me the green light to host holidays at my place (which is a big deal because I love to host and it helps me to get to know the family and show my good woman skills) approxmatley a week before all these events she would tell my FI to tell me (she always relays important messages through him) that she would be more confortable hosting them at her house and when she is no longer physically able to construct gatherings that I can host one. Not only does she beat around the bush and relay messages to me through someone else, she calls my FI a minium of 3 times a day, when he does not answer she leaves rude messages, saying it is morally wrong to ignore your mother, and she will just dissapear then ect... It has almost been six months since I have seen my MIL because she cancles anytime there is an event planned that I will be attending, but get this... she manages to take her son out to lunch every week. I do not know where to even begin to address this issue eveything that I mentioned above is just a brush on what her behaivor has been like, we are due to wed next December and I feel like the FI who is constantly upset by her MIL... I just cannot even imagine dealing with her like this for the rest of my life, I am a very direct, honest person and I cannot even be myself to her... I would never keep silent about my feelings to anyone except that woman... I really need direction please help.