Okay so FI and I decided we were going to stay at home tn. He is really sick battling a bad cold and I am not in the mood to go out. So I told him that we would have a romantic evening at home with the kitties, and I would make us a fancy dinner, and get us these fancy chocolates we love - which he was on board with. So I trekked to the chocolate place on my lunch break, and he texted me asking for OJ and champagne. Okay, no prob, I was going to get some anyways. So he texts me a little while ago [about 15 minutes ago] "My mom was asking if she should come over." Now, yesterday she texted me saying "Please make chicken soup for my baby, he sounds like he has a really bad cold." Duh, I know this. Then, "I am going to call him when I get home." For a second time I'm assuming since she must have already spoken to him to know he sounds bad. So when he told me she asked if she "should" and not "could" come over that really put me over the edge.
So I need some advice. Am I wrong to be annoyed? She lives on her own, so I understand she may not want to be alone. But we have never spent NYE with her. We always go out and do something, this is just the first year [and we just got engaged in September and moved in this year might I add] that we will be spending it in our home together. She has a boyfriend, so I don't know why she is not spending this day with him. Also, his grandma has the family over, so she has the option to do that, which she does almost every year. So IDK if I am being unreasonable or not. BTW, he is her only child and she is very clingy. In college she used to call him multiple times a day. She still does. Or at least daily. When we were apartment hunting she came to see places with us almost every single time we went. So I just kinda feel smothered sometimes. I don't say anything I suck it up, but I feel like tn I just really wanted it to be about us. Plus, had we decided to go out, we would not have spent it with family. We would have gone to our friends party. So what do you guys think? Am I being an unreasonable brat? Or am I right in feeling that I just want my fiance and I to spend tonight together?
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