For my entire life, my mother has made it clear to me that she will pay for whatever wedding I want, without ANY strings attached. She has always been passionate about this, since her mother had a lot of strings attached for my mother's wedding.
Aside from that, my family and I do not have a strong relationship. They are very controlling.
I got engaged recently to the love of my life. So I asked my parents if they could give me a budget, so I could start planning. I have been working recently on not being controlled by my family, so I told them if they gave us money, it would be with the understanding that they may not have a say in the planning.
My parents said that they would give me 10,000. They are willing to give me more than that if they have a say in the guest list. I want it really small, so I was not planning on inviting my mother's large family.
I feel really betrayed, since suddenly there are strings. How do I invite my fiance's parents but not my own to my wedding?