So for my bridal shower my friends from highschool (would be bridesmaids but I'm having a family only no bridesmaids ceremony) all pitched in and bought me a ticket to come from NYC to San Francisco to see them... about 5 of them live there and I live here. Anyways, they gave me about an 8 week notice, after I just took off time to see them and do the bridal shower over Christmas. I will also be taking off another two weeks in the next six months to do my actual wedding, reception, and honeymoon. It is really nice that they bought me a plane ticket to see them, but they scheduled the dates to overlap with basically my entire work week (four days, and I work weekends). So not only would be loosing money by taking an entire week off of work but also the expenses of being out in SF for four days with them. It'll hit me at about $500 if I am frugal about my spending in SF. With my wedding coming up, my crazy current schedule, and the fact that I JUST saw them, I really don't feel like taking off and flying out there. They spent about $50 each on this ticket and they expect me to spend $500 on them? It seems really selfish to me. I could pay to trade the ticket to a voucher and just use it for my honeymoon, which is what I asked for of everyone is a honeymoon registry. None of them gave to that. Would that be really selfish of ME? I am trying to think of it from there perspective but it is just a such a huge financial difference and the fact that they've put me in an awkward position of obligation. Should I suck it up and take the hit? I'm sure I'd have fun... or do I make excuse that I couldn't get off of work and trade it in?