Help! My fiance and I have been together for a long time, own a house together, etc. Wedding planning has been mostly smooth and in general we're good communicators and good at compromising--until we get to talking about our wedding ceremony which induces massive, unresolved fighting!
We're both agnostic him from an Armenian/Christian/Italian background and myself from an interfaith Jewish/Christian family. We've agreed we want a secular ceremony but I want to find a way to still create a ceremony that is meaningful and based on integrity and purpose. I think the wedding ceremony is and should be important and it's why we get to celebrate with a reception. My fiance, on the other hand, wants our ceremony to be 5 minutes or less and as basic as possible.
Now tonight he's saying he doesn't care about the ceremony at all and it's not important--his p.o.v is that he asked me to marry him and that was what was important and he already knows he wants to spend the rest of his life with me so a ceremony is just a formality--he doesn't even care about having one. He wants the reception though because it's a celebration of our love (which he does not need a ceremony to define or confirm for him). I'm feeling so hurt that he not only doesn't think it's important but also that he can't understand why I do think it's important.
Anyone else struggling? Am I being over-sensitive here? Did your groom co-write/co-work on your ceremony?