My maternal grandmother has lived with my family for almost twenty years, and is essentially a third parent to me. She has gotten progressively worse over the past two years (she's almost 92), physically, mentally, and emotionally. She can't cross a room without a walker and the assistance of another and refuses to leave the house, is forgetful and hard of hearing, and can be downright mean to my mother, my sister and I (mostly weight issues, although none of us are overweight). I live in a different city and am planning on having my wedding here in about 10 months time. It was brought up over the holidays where I would get married, and my aunt seemed appalled that I would have it out of town, bringing up my grandmother. What I didn't want to say was that 1) I don't expect my grandmother to live long enough to see my wedding and 2) don't want to have my wedding at the church where we recently had the funeral mass for my father. Should I change my plans and have it in my hometown, and if not, what is a tactful way to explain my reasoning?
