My father, and FI, have both mentioned how they were looking forward to "The Money Dance" a couple times during the planning process; my mother hasn't said much about it; a BM loaned me the purse from HER Money Dance...
I, being of sound mind and proper board-reading, obviously DO NOT want this dance to occur.
I bean-dipped my dad and FI; I thanked my BM for the loan and wine-glassed her...and I was pretty honest with my mother yesterday about my feelings:
Me: "I don't want a Money Dance at our reception...they're tacky."
Mom: "Oh, they're horribly tacky!...but you can make some good money..."
Me: Jaw drop. Facepalm. Eye Roll. /
Now, here's the ONLY thing, as a guest, that I have enjoyed about this dance: the few moments dancing solo with the B/G. The music is usually slow/low, everyone has a full tummy, and it's less hectic, more personal than a receiving line/visiting tables.
Does anyone have any ideas how I can experience this with my guests AND avoid soliciting money? Or is it just not possible?