I thought my fiance and I have decided on the guest list, I sent out Save The Dates a week ago. Now, 2 couples have come up and I'm not sure whether to add them or not.
The first is my BILs sister and BIL. My BIL is officiating our wedding. His BIL made a comment the other day saying something like "I can't wait to see your officiating in action." They are not on the invite list, part because of budget, part because neither FI or I particularly like BILs BIL. I was invited to their wedding a couple years ago (as an afterthought, they sent my parents an invitation and told my sister I could come too if I wanted). But I've read weddings aren't tit for tat, so I don't think I have to invite them, do I? I have never talked to either of them about the wedding, besides thanking them when they congratulated us.
The second situation is this: My parents best friends are C and D. C and D are definitely on the guest list. However, yesterday C's sister was in town and her and her husband have a vineyard in California. C's sister heard I was getting married and generously offered to send us 2 cases of wine, one red, one white to have at our wedding. So now do they get added to the invite list? I have no idea if the boxes of wine will actually happen, but I thought it was very nice and very appreciated and not expected at all. I have met both C's sister and her husband on multiple occasions, but they didn't immediately pop into my head to invite.
My parents are paying for the reception/dinner so I know I need to ask my mom's opinion, and I know she would love to invite C's sister and husband, but couldn't care less about BILs sister and BIL.
I feel like our guest list is getting a little out of control. Originally we planned on inviting 150, but now the guest list is at 160. I also feel like if we invite BILs sister we should probably invite his other sister too (and her husband). Blah.