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Shower Invite but no Wedding Invite

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My cousin is getting married and my aunt is throwing him and his fiancé a wedding shower.  I am NOT invited to the wedding, but my aunt invited me to the shower.  I'm sure she didn't mean for it to be bad etiquette, since we all no that no wedding invite means no shower invite, she just wanted me to come because I'm family.  I don't necessarily have a problem going or even getting them a gift, but I don't want to show up and have THEM feel obligated to extend a wedding invitation to me.  I'm not sure what to do.  Do I go?  Do I not go?  Do I just send a gift??
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Re: Shower Invite but no Wedding Invite

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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    If you want to go then go.  If you don't want to go then don't.  If you want to get them a gift then do so.  If not, then don't.

    Honestly, it really is up to you and you alone to decide what you want to do in this situation.  There is no right or wrong choice.

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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Ditto Maggie. Personally, I would not go and would just send a gift b/c I don't find showers all that much fun to attend. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    edited March 2014
    kss20 said:
    My cousin is getting married and my aunt is throwing him and his fiancé a wedding shower.  I am NOT invited to the wedding, but my aunt invited me to the shower.  I'm sure she didn't mean for it to be bad etiquette, since we all no that no wedding invite means no shower invite, she just wanted me to come because I'm family.  I don't necessarily have a problem going or even getting them a gift, but I don't want to show up and have THEM feel obligated to extend a wedding invitation to me.  I'm not sure what to do.  Do I go?  Do I not go?  Do I just send a gift??
    She wants you to come to the shower because you're family, but not to the wedding?   I'd decline.

    How do you know you're not invited to the wedding though?  Is it private?
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    Fairyjen1Fairyjen1 member
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        I'd decline because I'm not a fan of most showers, not because of etiquette. That's just me though, I'm not advising anyone else do that. 

       I would send a gift, but in my family I would send a gift whether I was invited to the shower/wedding or not. I have a good relationship with all my cousins and would want to wish them well and send them a gift to start their new life even if they were having a small wedding and not inviting extended family. 
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