Heres my issue our wedding has to be dry or we arent going to have almost half of my fi family show up so then he suggested we have a dry wedding with an after party that way we can choose people to give passes out to so that way we can keep track of everyone we are funding at the bar we are going to after wards how does one go about knowing who to give a pass to we cant quit put it on the invites cause it might upset his family ugh i know most of my family drinks so maybe make 2 different rsvp cards with a check box if you are comming to the after party i dont know what i am doing