Is it really necessary to designate a MOH? I'm only having three BMs, and I'm not closer to one than I am to the others. The BMs are a childhood friend, a high school friend who I've reconnected with in recent years, and FSIL. I don't want any of them to feel obligated to throw a shower or a bachelorette party. The only "MOH things" that I would like for someone to do are give a toast, help with bustling and carrying the train of my dress, and stand next to me at the ceremony and hold my bouquet. Would it be alright to ask each BM to do one of those things, instead of designating an MOH? Would anyone be offended if I didn't have one at all?