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• Laurlo82 member

  

  May 2014 edited June 2014

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  May 2014

  It would not be out of line at all to decline this party.  It sounds like it would just cause a large amount of stress and possible arguments with your Mom.

  
  

  I would just tell her that you really appreciate her offer but that you just prefer not to have an engagement party.  I don't think you need to elaborate on why you don't want it.

  
  

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• kmmssg mod

  

  May 2014

  Also, if she does the passive-aggressive thing and springs uninvited guests on you at the shower that is on her, not you.  You do not have to invite them to your wedding and she will have to clean up that mess.

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• AddieCake member

  

  May 2014

  I would definitely decline. She is being pushy and it is making you uncomfortable. This is only the engagement party; I can already see her continuing this behavior deeper into the planning process if you let her get by with it now. 

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• Jen4948 member

  

  May 2014

  I think under the circumstances you should definitely decline: "Mom, since we have such different ideas about how to hold this engagement party, I'd prefer not to have one at all.  Thanks for the offer, but I think we'll skip the engagement party."
  

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