Some of you may remember a previous rant of mine about a family vacation that my FMIL planned. For those who don't, here's the deal: FMIL planned for a bunch of us to go to the beach over 4th of July weekend. She didn't ask FI and I for budget/ timing. I was super ticked. FPILs ended up paying entirely for our portion of the beach house, so I sucked it up and got over it.
Recently, I found out that FSIL wants to have a shower for us while the family is at the beach. I think it's kind of rude to make everyone at the vacation come to a gift-giving party but apparently it was a family idea and "everyone is excited". So.... eh, not sure how to handle that.
But now another wrench has been thrown into the situation. I lost my job recently. I am looking for a new one. If I start anytime in the next few weeks, I'm going to have to negotiate just to get vacation for my honeymoon. I sure as heck won't have vacation for the week of July 4th. So I might not even be able to go to the beach at all, except for the actual day of the 4th and the weekend immediately following. She's currently planning the shower for Wednesday night--if I can come, it's likely I won't be there by Wednesday.
How should I handle this with FSIL? She's about ready to send out e-vites, and I don't want to invite people to a shower I can't even attend.