Drunk wedding guests - let's discuss

Kristen625 · May 2014

We had plenty of drunk people at our wedding. No one ruined it or even came close. Although H and I sure gave the side eye to a married guest who had an arm around another guest in a very "boyfriend" manner while his wife was out dancing on the dance floor. At one point his wife was sitting across from him at the bar while he still had the arm around the girl. The guest he had his arm around also knows very well that he is married with 2 kids. Said married drunk guest held onto me a little too long when I went to say good bye. I got the icky feeling.

But again, by no means did he ruin our wedding.

daria24 · May 2014

No one was drunk at my wedding but it wouldn't have mattered to me. I have been to weddings where people were pretty wasted (running up to the band to sing Call Me Maybe horribly off-key?) but no one did anything to "ruin" the wedding. At one wedding, I was in the shuttle on the way back to the hotel with the brother of the bride and he was belligerently drunk-making a huge scene. But that was on the shuttle at the end of the night, the bride and groom weren't there, and other than all of us giving him the major stink-eye, it didn't effect our time at the wedding.

One of the brides on my month board, at the end of her wedding, the boyfriend of her BM went insane and attacked the bride's brother and another guest. He was arrested. The bride saw the whole thing and was upset and worried about those that had been attacked, but it still didn't ruin her wedding day. She didn't allow 30 minutes at the end of the day to ruin the previous 6+ hours where everything had been wonderful.

Inkdancer · May 2014

I am choosing to have a dry wedding because of FMIL. When she gets drunk she calls me a whore, or says that I ruined FI's life, or starts talking about the semester he almost flunked out of college (he was fighting through clinical depression, but she gets catty and says he sat on his ass and didn't go to class). I almost punched her on Mother's Day because of bitchy stuff she said about FI in front of me. When she is sober, she has the sense to keep her mouth shut. So yeah, a drunk person could ruin my day, but only because it's FMIL and it would break FI's heart.

climbingsingle · May 2014

Inkdancer said:

I am choosing to have a dry wedding because of FMIL. When she gets drunk she calls me a whore, or says that I ruined FI's life, or starts talking about the semester he almost flunked out of college (he was fighting through clinical depression, but she gets catty and says he sat on his ass and didn't go to class). I almost punched her on Mother's Day because of bitchy stuff she said about FI in front of me. When she is sober, she has the sense to keep her mouth shut. So yeah, a drunk person could ruin my day, but only because it's FMIL and it would break FI's heart.

SITB
Oh man, Ink. I'm sorry.

phira · May 2014

At my brother's wedding, his new brother-in-law got suuuuper drunk and was hitting on and grinding with every woman between the ages of 16 and 30. Myself included. It was awkward.

We're not too worried about people getting too drunk; our wedding is a Sunday afternoon/evening. The biggest drinker at our wedding will honestly be my partner anyway, and he's already agreed to keep his alcohol intake low (2-3 drinks max).

We're instead worried about people bringing drinks on the dance floor, which our venue doesn't allow. How you do spread the word without being annoying?

@beethery Do you HAVE to invite Kool-Aid Man? Good lord. I would not want this person in my life. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

flyingfoxes · May 2014

My youngest brother asked my sister who's getting married in August if they were having an open bar (they are doing a cash bar), so I wonder a little bit about him, but hopefully since I'm not doing hard liquor, just beer and wine, maybe that will slow him down a little bit.

Do any of your venues make you hire security? We have to have 1 security guard there, so I wonder if he will step in if anybody gets out of line too much.

beethery · May 2014

phira said:
Do you HAVE to invite Kool-Aid Man? Good lord. I would not want this person in my life. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

Yup. Kool-Aid Man is good judies with FI, and they go way WAY back. BFFLs. I am ambivalent about Kool-Aid Man, but as long as he doesn't wreck shit or get us in trouble, I won't feel any kind of way about him attending.

Some of my favorite things about the wedding (where he thought they were going to run out), is that they had the booze tent open and everyone was getting drinks before the ceremony. People were still standing in line during most of the ceremony.

Kool-Aid Man had polished off two jack and gingers before the ceremony started, and was about to start on his third. Everyone had to stand for the ceremony (chairs were for the reception). Kool-Aid Man started to drop his drink before the bride came down the aisle. He overcorrected, and ended up throwing his drink all over the back of the girl standing in front of him.

A+ Kool-Aid Man.

Emmy1493 · May 2014

There probably quite a few drunk people at ours, but I never noticed. One was my MOH but she was very happy so I really couldn't tell haha. I mean, even I was getting a little tipsy! I accidentally elbowed a drink out of my BM's friends hand that she got for me, and felt terrible! Luckily it didn't get on her though, so that was good.

emmaaa · May 2014

I have no doubt in my mind many of our guests will be drinking and will get drunk. It will not ruin "my day" in the least. honestly, I think it will make it a lot of fun and not awkward like some receptions are.

Our friends keep talking about how "awesome" our wedding is going be be. Here's to not letting them down!

pinkcow13 · May 2014

There will definitely be drunk guests at our wedding. That's our crowd. Usually FI and I are the drunk guests! But we're good drunks, we don't get sick,pee, or so anything crazy. The worst I have done is fallen, and that's because I'm super clumsy. Especially in heels. At all family events, people get drunk, and we all have a good time. If anyone gets sick, it's not until they are home. For the wedding, I want to remember everything, so I don't plan on getting shitfaced.

offensivekitten2 · May 2014

My guests got free alcohol, and had an amazingly good time at our wedding. If you think about it, by the time people have REALLY been drinking, the bride and groom have slipped out of the reception for honeymoon lovings, or honeymoon sleeping (you married girls know what I'm talking about :P).

lyndausvi · May 2014

offensivekitten2 said:

My guests got free alcohol, and had an amazingly good time at our wedding. If you think about it, by the time people have REALLY been drinking, the bride and groom have slipped out of the reception for honeymoon lovings, or honeymoon sleeping (you married girls know what I'm talking about :P).

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Simply Fated · May 2014

I've never attended a wedding where a drunk person ruined the day. At my friend's wedding a drunk person kept spilling drinks and breaking glasses on the dance floor until his wife led him away, but the wedding was far from ruined.

I can imagine alcohol being a problem, though.

I don't get how a cash bar will help frequent drunks not be drunk. I guess they might go too far because OMGFREEBOOZE but even it wasn't free, they can still get drunk.
And the ticket limits are pathetic. I'd be hoarding them all night for myself.

lyndausvi · May 2014

Simply Fated said:

I've never attended a wedding where a drunk person ruined the day. At my friend's wedding a drunk person kept spilling drinks and breaking glasses on the dance floor until his wife led him away, but the wedding was far from ruined. I can imagine alcohol being a problem, though. I don't get how a cash bar will help frequent drunks not be drunk. I guess they might go too far because OMGFREEBOOZE but even it wasn't free, they can still get drunk. And the ticket limits are pathetic. I'd be hoarding them all night for myself.

Pretty sure every bar in the world proves that having a cash bar does not deter people from getting drunk.

Simply Fated · May 2014

lyndausvi said:

Simply Fated said:

I've never attended a wedding where a drunk person ruined the day. At my friend's wedding a drunk person kept spilling drinks and breaking glasses on the dance floor until his wife led him away, but the wedding was far from ruined.

I can imagine alcohol being a problem, though.

I don't get how a cash bar will help frequent drunks not be drunk. I guess they might go too far because OMGFREEBOOZE but even it wasn't free, they can still get drunk.
And the ticket limits are pathetic. I'd be hoarding them all night for myself.

Pretty sure every bar in the world proves that having a cash bar does not deter people from getting drunk.

inorite? I don't get the reasoning.

lyndausvi · May 2014

Simply Fated said:

Simply Fated said:

I've never attended a wedding where a drunk person ruined the day. At my friend's wedding a drunk person kept spilling drinks and breaking glasses on the dance floor until his wife led him away, but the wedding was far from ruined. I can imagine alcohol being a problem, though. I don't get how a cash bar will help frequent drunks not be drunk. I guess they might go too far because OMGFREEBOOZE but even it wasn't free, they can still get drunk. And the ticket limits are pathetic. I'd be hoarding them all night for myself.

Pretty sure every bar in the world proves that having a cash bar does not deter people from getting drunk.
inorite? I don't get the reasoning.

I don't get it either. One of the dumbest excuse I've heard on the topic.

I do not get that beer and wine keeps people from getting drunk either. I get more buzzed/drunk from wine than liquor. ::shrugs::

I get it costs less, I just don't get that it keeps people from getting drunk.

Simply Fated · May 2014

The times I have been the drunkest were the times I purchased my own drinks. I've been the many events with open bars and wasn't as drunk as I could have been lol.

lyndausvi · May 2014

Simply Fated said:

The times I have been the drunkest were the times I purchased my own drinks. I've been the many events with open bars and wasn't as drunk as I could have been lol.

Oddly, the people I've seen the most drunk at weddings are the parents who finally gets a night out without the kid, sometimes they don't have to get the kid till the next day. Yep, they try to drink like they are back in their party-like-a-rock-star days. Yeah. They are the ones you have to look out for.

The ones you think you have to worry about? Sure once in a while they go crazy, but they are professionals and tend to dial it back a little because grandma, great-aunty and mom's and dad's are around.

KytchynWitche · May 2014

Inkdancer said:

I am choosing to have a dry wedding because of FMIL. When she gets drunk she calls me a whore, or says that I ruined FI's life, or starts talking about the semester he almost flunked out of college (he was fighting through clinical depression, but she gets catty and says he sat on his ass and didn't go to class). I almost punched her on Mother's Day because of bitchy stuff she said about FI in front of me. When she is sober, she has the sense to keep her mouth shut. So yeah, a drunk person could ruin my day, but only because it's FMIL and it would break FI's heart.

I am so sorry Ink. You get all my hugs today.

Before BSCSM decided to flip her shit and got my dad to disown me and my sister last November, I was seriously considering having a dry wedding too. She is incredibly insecure and unbelievably immature, is incapable socialising without alcohol, is incapable of having anything less than a full bottle of wine to herself at lunchtime, and is a mean, mean, MEAN drunk.

My sister and I are worthless because we don't have college degrees (in her eyes, any woman who doesn't have a Masters is an oxygen thief), but then what can she expect when our mother has no education either. Yep, she trash talks my mom, she trash talks my grandparents, she makes crude jokes about my brother's sexuality. She constantly compares my sister and me to each other, and to her own daughters (who are now 10 or 11), trying to cause drama, and then when drama happens she gets all butthurt about it and "OMG Urbydad, how can you let your daughters behave like that, my angels would never!".

Yes, if she came to my wedding and got drunk, I would consider it ruined because it would be.

But if we're talking about the ordinary, run-of-the-mill, "can't stand up straight but wants to dance with everyone" kind of wedding drunk, then nah. That's sort of expected. I'd be a little shocked seeing as we're having a lunch reception with no dancing, but whatevs.

PrincessOfHavoc · May 2014

We have a healthy number (8) VIPs who are recovering alcoholics. To us, it's more important they're with us, thus no alcohol. Not because someone will get drunk, but because some are too new to even go down the beer aisle and we want them to succeed.

Some of us are bar hopping after. Drunken behavior is pretty well guaranteed. Given it's Halloween, we won't be the only stupid group.

BSC sister isn't invited because she'll be drunk or high, bring alcohol in, get more intoxicated and proceed to be her BSC self and start fights. I don't want to deal with her having a tantrum during the ceremony that her three flasks are empty.

[Deleted User] · May 2014

We have a mix of heavy drinkers, light drinkers, and no drinkers however I don't really see any of those people ruining my wedding. My mom is super paranoid about not wanting people to get drunk (she doesn't want to order too much wine so people won't get too drink....it's a full bar). Our reception is at a hotel so many people will be staying there and the ones that won't be are locals and know all the cab numbers so I'm not stressed about it...

The only wedding I've been to where a drunk person was rather entertaining was a FMIL's wedding last September- one of FI's friends brought a date that was a childhood friend he hadn't spoken to in a while...his date was perfectly sweet and reserved pre-alcohol. After some drinks she ended up straddling FI's friend at their dinner table and attempting to grind on everyone on the dance floor without giving much care to her hemline. We finally had to ask FI's friend step in when she started grinding on FI's boss's 70 year old husband...

Lizzieyounce · May 2014

Hell, by the end of our reception H and I were drunk. Everyone in our crowd parties, so we hired a shuttle for those who chose to use it. H and I took a taxi (which we planned to do anyway) to our hotel, took a shower and went to bed.

Everyone had a blast at the reception, my BFF (a guy) danced with everyone, including my H and all of our childhood friends (we all grew up together), even my mom was out on the floor in her wheel chair dancing the night away.

FiancB · May 2014

lyndausvi said:

Simply Fated said:

Simply Fated said:

I've never attended a wedding where a drunk person ruined the day. At my friend's wedding a drunk person kept spilling drinks and breaking glasses on the dance floor until his wife led him away, but the wedding was far from ruined. I can imagine alcohol being a problem, though. I don't get how a cash bar will help frequent drunks not be drunk. I guess they might go too far because OMGFREEBOOZE but even it wasn't free, they can still get drunk. And the ticket limits are pathetic. I'd be hoarding them all night for myself.

Pretty sure every bar in the world proves that having a cash bar does not deter people from getting drunk.
inorite? I don't get the reasoning.

I don't get it either. One of the dumbest excuse I've heard on the topic.

I do not get that beer and wine keeps people from getting drunk either. I get more buzzed/drunk from wine than liquor. ::shrugs::

I get it costs less, I just don't get that it keeps people from getting drunk.

I was starting to think I was the only one. Liquor doesn't do much for me.

mellowmarshmallow · May 2014

It makes me laugh when brides come up with the idea of having just beer, wine, and soda as a way to keep people from getting drunk. We had those choices and people still got drunk.

One of my friends got so drunk that he puked on his wife in the parking lot. This was after he spent the better part of the reception trying to get my mom's ok to pick a fight with my dad. They drove 30 minutes home, cleaned up, then wanted to drive back for the after party.

Incidentally, it was a sober/slightly tipsy guest that spilled her red wine down the side of my gown as we were saying our goodbyes. The dry cleaners got the stain out. So, my bridal gown wasn't ruined and my wedding sure as hell wasn't ruined by any guests' behavior drunk or sober.

FiancB · May 2014

Yeah, we are having a limited bar but make no mistake, it's for our wallets not because we don't like drunks.

If anyone's worried about getting booze spilled on them, I was at a wedding where the bride was puked on by her baby niece while holding her for pics. She wiped it up and moved the fuck on. Nobody that didn't see it happen even noticed.

cupcait927 · May 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I'm a drinker. I think you guys know I love my wine. But I'm not going to drink during the wedding. I want to remember everything! But I will be drinking after.

I love my wine. Love it so much that I'm getting married at a winery. However, I also plan on not drinking all that much that evening because I can quickly go from being fine to be drunk. I don't want to be hung over the next day or forget any part of my evening. So maybe a glass or 2. We will most certainly have drunk guests though, including FI. I'm really not concerned about any of them ruining my wedding because they all know how to act like adults, even when drinking.

phira · May 2014

mellowmarshmallow said:

It makes me laugh when brides come up with the idea of having just beer, wine, and soda as a way to keep people from getting drunk. We had those choices and people still got drunk.

One of my friends got so drunk that he puked on his wife in the parking lot. This was after he spent the better part of the reception trying to get my mom's ok to pick a fight with my dad. They drove 30 minutes home, cleaned up, then wanted to drive back for the after party.

Incidentally, it was a sober/slightly tipsy guest that spilled her red wine down the side of my gown as we were saying our goodbyes. The dry cleaners got the stain out. So, my bridal gown wasn't ruined and my wedding sure as hell wasn't ruined by any guests' behavior drunk or sober.

Yeah, see, we decided on a limited open bar, not because we want to keep people from getting drunk, but because that's the cheapest way for us to serve as much booze as possible without us going broke!

climbingsingle · May 2014

cupcait927 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I'm a drinker. I think you guys know I love my wine. But I'm not going to drink during the wedding. I want to remember everything! But I will be drinking after.

I love my wine. Love it so much that I'm getting married at a winery. However, I also plan on not drinking all that much that evening because I can quickly go from being fine to be drunk. I don't want to be hung over the next day or forget any part of my evening. So maybe a glass or 2. We will most certainly have drunk guests though, including FI. I'm really not concerned about any of them ruining my wedding because they all know how to act like adults, even when drinking.

I so wanted to get married at a winery! I couldn't find any around here that could fit our group though. But my centerpieces are wine themed (wine bottles, corks, grapes) and I think I'm going to incorportate more corks into the escort cards.

cupcait927 · May 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

cupcait927 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I'm a drinker. I think you guys know I love my wine. But I'm not going to drink during the wedding. I want to remember everything! But I will be drinking after.

I love my wine. Love it so much that I'm getting married at a winery. However, I also plan on not drinking all that much that evening because I can quickly go from being fine to be drunk. I don't want to be hung over the next day or forget any part of my evening. So maybe a glass or 2. We will most certainly have drunk guests though, including FI. I'm really not concerned about any of them ruining my wedding because they all know how to act like adults, even when drinking.

I so wanted to get married at a winery! I couldn't find any around here that could fit our group though. But my centerpieces are wine themed (wine bottles, corks, grapes) and I think I'm going to incorportate more corks into the escort cards.

We searched high and low to find one that would accommodate a small wedding without breaking the bank. I can't wait to see pictures from your wedding! We're doing wine bottles on the tables as well and corks for escort cards. Apples instead of grapes though, to tie in the fact that we're getting married in the fall.

theartistformerlyknownas · May 2014

FiancB said:

lyndausvi said:

Simply Fated said:

Simply Fated said:

I've never attended a wedding where a drunk person ruined the day. At my friend's wedding a drunk person kept spilling drinks and breaking glasses on the dance floor until his wife led him away, but the wedding was far from ruined. I can imagine alcohol being a problem, though. I don't get how a cash bar will help frequent drunks not be drunk. I guess they might go too far because OMGFREEBOOZE but even it wasn't free, they can still get drunk. And the ticket limits are pathetic. I'd be hoarding them all night for myself.

Pretty sure every bar in the world proves that having a cash bar does not deter people from getting drunk.
inorite? I don't get the reasoning.

I don't get it either. One of the dumbest excuse I've heard on the topic.

I do not get that beer and wine keeps people from getting drunk either. I get more buzzed/drunk from wine than liquor. ::shrugs::

I get it costs less, I just don't get that it keeps people from getting drunk.

I was starting to think I was the only one. Liquor doesn't do much for me.

At our venue, beer, wine and soda isn't even that much cheaper. It's all consumption, and they charge by the bottle for beer (no kegs) and can for pop (no fountain). Booze is rounded to the tenth of a bottle. It comes out to something like $7 for each mixed drink (premium brands) and $6 for wine and beer (imported). I DO think people tend to drink a higher number of beers than of mixed drinks. It's gonna cost a fortune either way so might as well go big or go home!

We have over a dozen guests and wedding party members in recovery, but they don't mind people drinking around them. They're past the temptation stage. With that crowd though (plus my mom), the coffee tab is gonna be what breaks me. $35 per gallon, Lord help me.

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