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Bridal shower attire?

SJM7538SJM7538 member
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Hi ladies!

I have my cousins bridal shower next weekend and I'm not sure what to wear. The shower is at my aunts house and the invitations were pretty informal. But I know the wedding is going to be pretty upscale (at least from what I can tell/have heard).


Since it's at their house I was thinking of wearing dark jeans, a nice top and black flats. Does this sound appropriate? Or should I suck it up and put On a dress ?
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    AprilH81AprilH81 member
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    Do you have any dress slacks (not jeans)?  I would wear slacks over the jeans, but you know your family better.  I wouldn't wear a dress unless YOU want to wear one.
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    sarahuflsarahufl member
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    Sundress is my vote. Or some cute capris and a blouse instead of the dark jeans.
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    erolliserollis member
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    Dark jeans, nice flats or heals, and a nice top sounds perfect. Especially if you don't normally wear a dress. Showers in my group aren't very formal.
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    climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I'm old school - I never wear jeans to a shower, regardless of where it's being held. 
    I vote for a cute sundress.
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    chibiyuichibiyui member
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    I wouldnt side eye nice jeans, but showers are informal in my circle.

    I vote maxi dress. They are effortless and chic. And comfy.
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    Bubblegum5586Bubblegum5586 member
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    I personally always wear a dress to a shower. Usually just a casual Maxi or sundress. Is it a lunch or brunch shower? I think dark jeans would only work if it was an evening shower.
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    ashleyepashleyep member
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    A casual dress of some sort. My cousin wore jeans to mine, it was fine (obviously), but she stuck out a bit.
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    lc07lc07 member
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    Must be a know your circle thing. No one wears jeans to any type of shower (bridal, baby) that I've ever attended. I personally wouldn't care if you did as a guest or as the guest of honor but you would be underdressed at any shower I've attended if you wore jeans.
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    jdluvr06jdluvr06 member
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    It depends on your crowd I think. Showers are really informal here. People just wear jeans and tshirts.
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    iloveotters2014iloveotters2014 member
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    I dont think anyone will side-eye you honestly. I wore a dress to my shower and so did like half the people there. the other half was in jeans. My shower was at a small winery.

    Do you know anyone else going? maybe you can ask them what they were thinking?
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    VulgarGirlVulgarGirl member
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    Everyone I know would wear jeans to a shower if the weather was cool enough. Otherwise, sundress/capris/longer shorts. It's already hot here, so if showed up in jeans I'd be wondering what was wrong with you because it's hot.
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    lc07lc07 member
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    I personally always err on the side of being slightly overdressed than underdressed. I don't think you'd be rude to wear jeans, however. Do what you are comfortable with.
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    thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    Why don't you just ask your aunt?

    I vote casual sundress. 
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    pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 member
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    For a shower? Jeans are totally find in my circle. Some girls would dress up in sun dresses, but some wouldn't

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    JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    Yeah, asking your aunt is a good idea.

    I would never wear jeans to a shower, but showers in my circle are generally held at restaurants or event halls.  So I'm not sure about a home shower.  Maybe try for some nice slacks instead of jeans, or a dress is always an option.
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    alpacalunchalpacalunch member
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    Like PPs, I vote something like a sundress or a skirt/blouse deal. I would always rather be overdressed than underdressed. Unless you show up in a ballgown, I doubt you'll go too far that direction.
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    jenndeirdrejenndeirdre member
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    I'm going to one tomorrow and will be in my usual dress pants. This will be my first time actually meeting the bride but I'm fairly certain it will be a dressy/casual feel. I'm going with my fmil it's her niece.
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    lc07 said:

    I personally always err on the side of being slightly overdressed than underdressed. I don't think you'd be rude to wear jeans, however. Do what you are comfortable with.

    This. I have no problem being the only chick in a dress (and have been on several occasions).
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    InkdancerInkdancer member
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    I'd ask your aunt.

    I'll be wearing a swimsuit to my shower, since it's a lake party with swimming and boats. But I'm bringing a cute dress to wear for the gifts and eating portion of the day.
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    labrolabro member
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    Showers in my area tend to be cute sun dresses or skirts and blouses. I think I wore dark colored jeans and a nice sweater to a couples baby shower once but it was a joint sports party at the same time so it was kind of the exception to the rule.



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    lc07 said:
    Must be a know your circle thing. No one wears jeans to any type of shower (bridal, baby) that I've ever attended. I personally wouldn't care if you did as a guest or as the guest of honor but you would be underdressed at any shower I've attended if you wore jeans.
    This. A friend of mine wore jeans to our mutual friends shower. I don't think any cared (and she looked great), but she was the only one in jeans.
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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I would definitely ask your aunt. 
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    SJM7538 said:

    Hi ladies!

    I have my cousins bridal shower next weekend and I'm not sure what to wear. The shower is at my aunts house and the invitations were pretty informal. But I know the wedding is going to be pretty upscale (at least from what I can tell/have heard).


    Since it's at their house I was thinking of wearing dark jeans, a nice top and black flats. Does this sound appropriate? Or should I suck it up and put On a dress ?

    I think bc it is at a house you can dress more down then you would @ some upscale restaurant.

    That said, i hate dresses and wear jeans to every shower.

    I personally think jeans are fine. If someone has a problem with it, thats them bc there are more important things to care about than what someone is wearing to a shower.

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    SP29SP29 member
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    You should dress according to the style of the invite and the event.

    Myself, I would not wear jeans to a shower. At the very least dress pants/ capris, or a skirt. 

    Unless the shower involved physical activity. I was once invited to a shower where we had a picnic in a public park and were going to play Frisbee- I definitely wore long shorts and a nice t-shirt. 

    You can of course always ask your aunt or another family member who is attending what they plan to wear. 
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