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Who complains to the bride..

huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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edited June 2014 in Chit Chat
..at the rehearsal?

Oh that would be my lovely new sister in law (husband's brother's wife.)  This woman is the most spoiled entitled person I've ever met. She thinks the world revolves around her. My husband does not like her at all, but I've been nothing but nice to her. Prior to the wedding, I only met her one other time when her and DH's brother were in town (they live over a thousand miles away).

So we get ready for our rehearsal and I had given all of the bridal party and parents a schedule of what time people need to be ready for the wedding pictures the next day. It also included a hair and makeup schedule for the mothers and maids (I was paying for everyone's hair and makeup).  We do our rehearsal, and when we are done, and are just hanging out for a few minutes before dinner. SIL pulls me aside and says she's OFFENDED that I didn't invite her to get hair and makeup done with everyone. She said she came from far away and doesn't know anyone and it was rude of me to not ask her.

Excuse me? 

I barely know this woman. And from the stories I've heard from my now husband, and his other brothers, this is not a person I want with me while I'm getting ready for my wedding. I have enough things to worry about, I certainly don't want to deal with her attitude. So I told her "I'm sorry, but it's just for the bridesmaids and mothers." And then she says "well my mother in law is getting her hair and makeup done." "Yes, she's a mother, of course she's invited." (Seriously, what is wrong with this woman?)  

Then I said I was paying for everyone's hair and makeup, and she said she never would expect me to pay for her. So I'm supposed to invite her, but not pay for her? OK, that's not rude at all (eye roll). Or I'm supposed to tell my MUA and hairdresser, I'm paying for everyone but her. No, that sounds way more rude IMHO.

Then she was asking me where she could get her hair done somewhere. I'm thinking, this woman is in her late 30's, can she not figure it out on her own? I didn't know the area that well, I certainly didn't know of a salon nearby, since I hired my own vendors to come to the venue. I said we could ask the front desk.

I was so mad, who does that?  I am not a mean person, but I was so caught of guard, it made me upset that she called me rude. There is nothing rude about not inviting someone to join you to get ready. Apparently, she was complaining to the best man's wife, who couldn't believe she was saying this. 

At least she lives far away right?  


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Re: Who complains to the bride..

  • Some people have no boundaries.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • That lady is crazy as hell.
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  • People like to assume they are included in everything, you can't take her response to your agenda personally. Hopefully she realizes that you meant no harm by not inviting her and everything goes on cheerfully :) 
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  • SIL made a hostess cry one night when my DH family were out to dinner (this was a couple years before I knew my husband).  She yelled at the hostess because they had a 7:30 reservation, and their table wasn't ready for 10 or 15 minutes. Does she not understand how restaurants work? You can't get be seated until the people who were there before you leave.

    She wasn't in any of our wedding family pictures because she didn't show up in time. Not that DH or I are complaining.

    I've found all these stories comical, until it involved me. 
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  • Good news!  She is not going to be your sister-in-law!  She is going to be your future HUSBAND"S sister-in-law!  You don't have to claim the bitch.
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  • You sure you aren't talking about my sister in law?



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  • You should email her this link: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=hair+salons

    Seriously, what a jerk! One thing to say "I don't know the area, could you recommend a salon off the top of your head" but completely another to essentially invite herself to your appointment. 
  • She sounds gross. Do your own hair, crazy lady. No one will be looking at you.
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  • Ugh how uncomfortable. I'm sorry that happened. Sounds like she is very insecure. She should have just enjoyed spending some time in the area with her husband and relaxed. Then used her own curling iron or hair dryer to do a simple style and been happy with it. Hugs to you and try not to let this ruin your special day.
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  • My day was not ruined. It was a wonderful day. My husband said she might do something like that, but I never believed that she would be that brazen. 
    You should thank her for setting the IL bar so low for you. You'll look good no matter what.
    Yes, I'm pretty sure I'm the favorite SIL!
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