I guess it was too good to be true...things have been great with my FMIL as far as planning. She has been the main go to person for me with my ideas and thoughts on things. FI and I were talking about possibly cutting out toasts, and just say a quick thank you to everyone as a whole and she FLIPPED...she said she has a problem with that as the MOH and BM are SUPPOSED to say something. I told her its not a requirement and we rather have people eat and party.
So she then sends us both a text message saying if we didn't want a traditional wedding we should've said so and that we might as well cut out the father/daughter, mother/son dances on top of everything we are excluding (we aren't doing any tosses cause that's not our thing, but that's basically it). I am kind of hurt that she has gotten so upset about a simple thing and told her that I am sorry that she is disappointed. She is pretty much acting like a child now and is saying she "checked herself in to her place in OUR wedding". I simply don't have the energy to deal with this.
And yes, FI's parents are footing a big portion of the bill. And I told her that she and her husband can say something as they have already stated they wanted to and we would do a quick thank you. But apparently that's not good enough.