My mother is more of a hands off parent and has always let my aunt take over. That's normally fine but I thought for the wedding she would want to be involved more, especially because she told me personally how excited she was to do the whole Mother of the Bride thing. But now she just doesn't want to go the shower (forget planning it!) never helped with the dress or even went to a fitting, hasn't helped with a single vendor or even attended a single wedding related thing. We sat down and talked about budget at the beginning, and I told her that I only wanted her to contribute what she knew she could and we would plan our budget around that, and of course she hasn't even come up with a quarter of what she said she would, which now my fiance is having to work overtime constantly to make up the difference. I've told her I would like her to be more involved and it just doesn't work, in fact the only time she's been here during the engagement (she lives in another city) she was asked repeatedly by me and my family to get off of her cell phone (e-bay) and be involved and she couldn't be bothered! We've already had a lot of issues with this wedding and it would be nice to at least have support from my mom, so what do I do??