My FBIL just got engaged last month and they have been looking at venues with the brides family. The brides parents decided that they would contribute 20,000, and expect the bride and groom to pay 20,000, and expect the grooms parents to pay 20,000, making their budget 60,000.
The grooms parents (my future inlaws) were taken aback by this. They haven't been asked to be involved in any of the planning so far and since the groom, and the bride and her family all live in the same area out of state, they feel they wont get to pick what their money goes towards since they cant be there to look at venues and meet with vendors.
My MIL asked that they wait til her other son (my FI) wedding is over (in 5 days) and then they will need to have a talk about finances.
We are paying for our wedding ourselves without expecting money from anyone. My MIL asked my advice and I wasn't sure what to say. I said that if she would like to contribute, that she should come up with an amount she is comfortable giving and what she would like it to be used for and let them know.
What do you ladies think?