So my future brother-in-law and his girlfriend have been dating for 2-ish years. We were pretty good friends in the past, but have since grown apart a bit. I felt like I needed to involve her in the wedding somehow, and was thinking I'd ask if she'd like to do a reading or pass out the programs, her choice. One day I was talking with my fiance, siblings, etc. about who we'd like to have involved in the wedding, and her name was brought up. We didn't specify the "roles" of everyone, who was going to be a bridesmaid, groomsmen, usher, or anything like that. Since this conversation, future brother-in-law's girlfriend is assuming we meant that we wanted her to be a bridesmaid. Now I feel stuck. I don't feel close enough to her to have her as a bridesmaid, but now I'm scared I'll hurt her feelings if I tell her that I wanted to have her be involved in some other way than a bridesmaid. What should I do? Should I suck it up and have her as a bridesmaid to spare her feelings? Or should I clarify to her that I'd rather her be involved in some other way?