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Any Wedding Regrets?

Woodsy62Woodsy62 member
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in New York-Hudson Valley
I saw this on another thread and thought it was interesting.
When you look back is there any one regret or multiple regrets you have about your wedding or wedding day that you wish you did different?

No posts about how perfect your wedding was and you wouldnt change a thing, im looknig for advice here! haha
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  • TerriandJoeTerriandJoe
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    edited December 2011
    My two "regrets"

    Wish I started saving money/ getting serious about a job as soon I learned that Joe bought my ring. He got my ring months before he proposed, I just didn't get serious about my finances until he asked me. Many a time during our planning I wished I had saved money during that pre-engagement time.

    Also,

    I wish I had pushed a little bit more into having FI come with me to meet my top choices for a particular vendor. While I'm happy with who we went with, I wish he had met with more people to get a sense of what's out there.


    Advice for you -

    Save money!

    Make fiance meet your top picks. If you like three businesses, make him meet all three. Even if he goes with you and meets the first one and says they are fine, make him meet the other two companies.
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  • Bat937Bat937
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    edited December 2011
    My one regret is that I didn't listen to my instincts about the piano player for the chapel. The chapel dictated who we had to use but I never got a good feeling about her and I wished I just told her we didn't need her and had my friend do it. 

    The chapel never would have found out, and honestly if they did, it would have been after the fact and what would they have done. 

    She showed up in black jeans and an orange down vest with sneakers.  She refused to have any contact with my soloist  before the wedding.  She was just a b****.
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  • ssagessage member
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    edited December 2011
    I wish that I told the maitre'd that i would deal with her at the end of the night.

    I regret that i waited too long to do certain things ... waited until the last week to try and get a bunch of stuff done and opted to not do some of it.

    Other than that, no regrets!!!!
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  • wldktz10wldktz10
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    edited December 2011
    I wish I didn't change out of my dress early. Anything else I can live with.
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  • smatuzasmatuza member
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    edited December 2011
    spent too much time taking pictures and still didnt get all the shots i wanted

    wish i danced more :)
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  • Just JenJust Jen
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    edited December 2011
    I wish I had reapplied my lipstick!!

    This is my biggest peice of advice, ladies -- I totally forgot about it, and I cringe about it a little bit whenever I look at my "later in the night" pictures.
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  • prusgirlprusgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I wish I tried on my dress a lot more after I brought it home.  I kept dieting and didn't realize a few pounds made a difference.  I could have used a tighter fit. 

    I wish I would have written down a COMPLETE play list.  My DJ had about 75% of the songs we wanted to hear.  

    I wish I didn't waste money on some unnecessary items.  I added way too much decor in spots where no one even noticed.

    I wish I would have paid the photographer for overtime.  I let him leave after our committed five hours.  So, he missed my dress change.

    I wish and this may be really important for brides who want to be careful of costs - I wish I managed my final guest count better.  You will have no shows.  I did reduce the number of people to account for that and I was nearly fine.  But, if I paid attention to what my husband said about his friend -- what a jerk he was; I wouldn't have included him in the count.  If he showed up, we would have made a place for him and just paid later.  I wasted about $1,000 on no shows.
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  • pollygutspollyguts
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    edited December 2011
    I wish I had pushed myself to left weights before the wedding. I looked fine overall but I wish I had toned up my arms.

    I also wish I had taken more pics before the wedding. Getting them done during the cocktail hour was stressful and I didn't eat a single hor douevre! Other than that.. it was all good. 
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  • laura_themightylaura_themighty member
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    edited December 2011
    I've been married for over a year now and I still think about the things I regret on a regular basis!

    Number one rule is: BE ORGANISED! Like waaaaay ahead of time, as you just don't know what life is gonna throw at you. I got sick (shingles) three weeks before the wedding and as a result half of my last minute tasks didn't get completed. This meant that the list of songs I'd been compiling for a year and a half were never filed into three sparate lists for cocktail hour, dinner and dancing which led to the DJ playing innapropriate music at certain times. On that note, as I work in the bar/restaurant biz, I thought it would be a great money saver to hire a DJ I knew through the biz to work at my wedding. HUGE MISTAKE! Through no fault of his own, he had no clue about the flow of a wedding and started playing pumping tunes before dinner was over and also before my husband and I had a chance to do our first dance! Not to mention no one MC'd the party which kinda left it feeling a bit flat. Ugh, I still cringe at the memory! Totally should've hired a professional wedding DJ!

    I also regret not having any video footage. I don't neccessarily think you have to hire a videographer, but you should at least ask a handful of guests to make some videos on their phones or camcorders (especially the ceremony!!) which you can later collect and edit.

    I regret not having a day of co-ordinator. Even though the manager and owner at my venue were great and my catererer had a manager overseeing that side of things, I still felt that I should have had someone there to manage the timeline of the day and oversee all the small details I had sweated over for two years! 

    Also,  I was over an hour late (whoops!) and I didn't stop to think about how this would affect the caterer who was working exactly to the original schedule (which I can't fault, obviously) and so he served our buffet on time, but as we were in the middle of speeches, by the time we finished and our guests made their way to the buffet the food was cold! Though everyone did comment that it was still delicious and cooked to perfection!

    I noticed that one of the other girls regrets not reapplying her lippie throughout the day - me too!! I don't think it ruined any of my pics, but considering what I spent on hair/make up and photography, it would have been nice to get the whole look in every shot.

    I also regret not following through on my photographers request for a list of shots I wanted ahead of time. I didn't get any nice pics of just me and my MOH! Also wish I had consulted my mum and MIL on shots they would have liked too.

    I think that's more than enough as I seem to have rambled on quite a bit!

    Good luck with your big day and enjoy every minute leading up to it as there's nothing quite like being a bride-to-be!
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