Background: Bride was married and had an elegant, expensive, large wedding with all her nearest, dearest, friends and family. Not long before that she also had a lovely shower at the local country club. Both were highly attended both with paid for by the bridesmaids or brides family - both events the bride did not send Thank you notes for - to anyone.
Present: The bride and groom are expecting their first children - twins! All are happy and excited and wish the couple well. The moms and bridesmaids have all declined to throw her a shower. Why? Because she couldn't properly thank the people who were gracious enough to provide her a gift for her shower and wedding (which was a DW for everyone) so why should they help extend the rudeness to include more gifts which in all likelihood will not receive thank yous?