Edit: Would this make you think less of my parents.

MissDuke2012 · July 2010

My parents have started going though pictures so they can begin scanning them on to the computer for the "growing up slideshow". I came across one that I love. I think its cute.

My parents not so much. They think some of the older guests might look at it and think they were bad parents.

What would you think if you saw this?

blondie82784 · July 2010

What did your parents find wrong with it? All I see is a little girl that decided to go through her mothers clothes and play dress up, unless there's something I cant see I don't see anything wrong with it

sarah42nd · July 2010

Is it because its lingerie ( I think??) . i think it looks fine .

gottahavashorti · July 2010

I thought it was just a kid dressed up as a hippie at first. But if it's your parents' underwear, I think it's their say about whether it's displayed publicly.

MissDuke2012 · July 2010

My mom said some of the older guests might think differently of them after seeing they're daughter dressed up in her lingerie. I don't see why, its not like I knew what it was at the time.

I think its cute.

sarah42nd · July 2010

If your parents dont want there underwear shown to teh world then I would respect her wishes . lol

MissDuke2012 · July 2010

They said I could use it at the RD. But worry about the reception because of all of my great aunts and uncles. They originally suggested using it.

MobKaz · July 2010

It is innocent and precious.....you can't control what other people may or may not think! I find it actually ironic since it basically could also be your wardrobe later on in the evening! THAT would be funny if your mom could actually pull it out and give to you! People need to lighten up!! Go with your first instinct as well as your mom's-----which was to include it because it's fun---pertinent to the day/night---and innocent!

gottahavashorti · July 2010

I can definitely understand why your mom might not want her aunts and uncles to see her lingerie. Awkward.

vegasgroom · July 2010

I can't believe your house didn't have carpet; they are bad parents! j/k :-)

MeaghanandMichael · July 2010

I doubt people are going to notice and I honestly doubt they would care if they did notice. This is so not worth worrying about. Just don't use it and move on. Or, use it and don't give a fluck. This post seems pointless.

MissDuke2012 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_would-this-offend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:d5debf7a-d229-4933-8118-b1b6f6a06cacPost:b6618356-a928-41b8-9bcc-41b95101e62b">Re: Edit: Would this make you think less of my parents.</a>:
[QUOTE]I can't believe your house didn't have carpet; they are bad parents! j/k :-)
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]

We were in the process of adding on to our house at the time, this space wasn't lived in yet. They were painting and I just had to show them what I found.

luckyme502 · July 2010

Yeah, no. I wouldn't want that in a slide show at my daughter's wedding. I feel like what I wear to have sex with my FI/H is my business. Of course, I probably wouldn't even have taken the picture in the first place.

Kristin789 · July 2010

Yes.
A kid that age should not have access to sexwear, sex toys, sex lube, whatever - and to showoff at a WEDDING EVENT that your parents are so very liberal that they not only left access to sexwear but thought it was funny enough to take a photo... well, that's too much.

Srbageldog · July 2010

At first I thought you were dressed as a hippy or a flapper. If the pic was shown fast enough, most guests might not even have time to realize what it is you're wearing.

However, I can totally understand why your parents don't want this used. It would be embarressing to them. Out of respect for them, I would say not to use it. I'm sure you have lots of other cute pics to use in its place.

bradandjackie · July 2010

I think it's freaking ADORABLE!!! it totally depends on the audience though (just like in this post). Depending on how conservative/liberal your guests/family are, some might find this offensive. In a large event, I'd lean towards conservative, just so you don't hafta deal with people gracing you with their opinions.

tldh · July 2010

It took me few seconds to realize what I was looking at. However, I'm with your mom on this one. Having her "naughty" laundry displayed in public is just not appropriate, no matter how innocent the picture.

luckyme502 · July 2010

If your grandparents are going to be at your wedding, do you think your mom wants her mom and dad to see that?

trix1223 · July 2010

I vote no. Especially in light of the fact that your parents have asked you not touse it. Put yourself in their place: you ask that a photo not be used because it makes you uncomfortable, and your parents put it on public display anyway.

Piru · July 2010

My parents used a naked pic of my sister from when she was little. lol.

But, I do kind of get the point of being in your mom's lingerie being a little personal for them. I personally wouldn't mind but if your mom's the more bashful type then I would respect her for not wanting to use it.

As for other people thinking they're bad parents, I doubt it. But if they really don't want to use the picture I would let it go.

tldh · July 2010

Editing your title doesn't change anything. It's not a matter of people thinking less of your parents - are these their exact words by the way because it sounds like they're trying for a stronger reason than what I think it really is: a matter of your mother not wanting her lingerie (from any period) in any context (worn by her dress up playing daughter) on display for your wedding guests.

Sorry but no matter how you try to frame this, mom's wishes win.

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goheels05 · July 2010

I think it's funny. My parents aren't uptight people and they would show the photo and not care what anyone thought (today in Ikea, I wanted to look at cribs, my sister asked if we were going to have a baby, and my mom said "they practice every night!" out loud. So yeah, that's how we roll). That being said, if your mother is uncomfortable with people seeing a pic of you playing dress up and the outfit includes her lingerie, skip it, I'm sure there's plenty of equally endearing photos of you as a tot.

MissDuke2012 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_would-this-offend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:d5debf7a-d229-4933-8118-b1b6f6a06cacPost:463b7a60-1d20-4916-9dbe-d1456f1adc03">Re: Edit: Would this make you think less of my parents.</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Editing your title doesn't change anything.</strong> It's not a matter of people thinking less of your parents - are these their exact words by the way because it sounds like they're trying for a stronger reason than what I think it really is: a matter of your mother not wanting her lingerie (from any period) in any context (worn by her dress up playing daughter) on display for your wedding guests. Sorry but no matter how you try to frame this, mom's wishes win. .
Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

The title edit, was yesterday. Way before you ever posted anything (actually, it was before ANYONE posted anything). The orginal title was "would you this offend you".

tldh · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_would-this-offend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:d5debf7a-d229-4933-8118-b1b6f6a06cacPost:06600dcd-0a95-4f3d-9321-f340eb35f4f0">Re: Edit: Would this make you think less of my parents.</a>:
[QUOTE]I wouldn't think they were bad parents for letting you dress up, but I would honestly think less of them for letting you use that picture. Or I would assume that you used it against their wishes, which would make me think less of YOU.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Well said.

andy71781 · July 2010

I think its creepy and kinda WT.

carolynnmarieg · July 2010

In general, I think it's 100% fine.

Only problem is your parent's don't want it included. I would respect that, and give up having the photo in the show, for that reason alone. I'm presuming you have tons of adorable photos of yourself as a child that will stand in just fine.

Galaxy8227 · July 2010

I think it's funny but if your parents really don't want you to use it, I'd skip it.

mleese0703 · July 2010

If your mom asked you not to use it, then I would go with Mom's wishes, just so you don't have to listen to these women on here complain!. Whatever happened to constructive criticism without hurting someone's feelings? She is just asking for advice, not a deposition about how bad her parents are or your hang ups about lingerie or editing the title of her post.
Miss Duke, if it worries your mom, leave it out for the reception, but if you would like to include it in a private slideshow for yourself, your intended and your parents, then by all means do so. Not everyone will understand a private joke, and after reading some of the comments on here, I am beginning to understand that you may get some nasty comments from guests at the wedding, and not just the people commenting here.
Good luck and I hope it goes well!

amwilli5 · July 2010

I think its cute and my mom just looked at it and thought it was adorable. I see no problems with it. If it's a slide show most pictures aren't shown long enough to see any details anyways

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