My MOH offered to host a bridal shower. I accepted and gave her my guest list which consisted of a few friends, my mom and FMIL.
FMIL called me after she got her invite and asked if I invited anyone from her family. I told her no, that it was a small shower and she hung up. Later on I get a call from MOH asking me if certain family members are on our wedding guest list. When I asked why, she told me FMIL invited three more people.
Last night, FI gets a call from FMIL asking why I only invited her and no one else from her family to the shower and then proceeded to ask if she could invite FI's Godmother to the showr too. FI again explained that it is a small shower, that I don't know her family and didn't want to be perceived as being gift-grabby.
She said I was being rude since in her culture and "every other culture except for WASPs" (her direct quote) that everyone who is invited to the wedding is invited to the showr.
Is she right? Also should my MOH put her foot down when FMIL calls every few days to invite more people? My MOH has been adding people to the guest list for FMIL, but I don't even know these people!!!!