Ok so here is the backstory: My parents have been divorced since I was 2 years old, my father remarried when I was almost 4 & my mom has never remarried. After 25 years, things are still uncomfortable between them. My mom (and grandma) feel like my step mom is the devil. She has been nothing but good to me over the years, so I have no hostile feelings to her whatsoever, I actually consider her like a second mom. My grandma (moms mom) still isn't to fond of my dad. Needless to say it has always been a little hostile.
So fast forward to the wedding. My fiancé and I are both from New Orleans, but are currently living in Atlanta. I have had to do most of the planning myself, with the help of a few bridesmaids and my fiancé. When we were home visiting, my mom went with me to go dress shopping & actually found THE dress. My dad is going to be walking me down the aisle, although it has been mentioned that I need to let my mom walk me down too. I personally don't like the way that looks for my situation. I feel like it is going to look like a struggle for power between my mom and dad. I am going to do the roses for the mothers during the ceremony, but I felt like I needed to include my stepmom since she has been in my life since a young age. My mom has made the statement that she feels left out and my dad is getting all of the "honor". I thought doing the rose thing would be a great way to honor her, but now Im concerned that she will get upset that my stepmom is also included in that. Any ideas on how I could honor just her to make her feel more involved in the wedding day?