Well at least you're better off than I am

SmileDamnit · November 2014

martha1818 said:

Oh man, or how about those people who like to one-up how many hours you work each week?
I have so many friends who humble-brag that they have to put in 80 hours of work a week. Like, congratulations your job is super intense, you must be more important than me! Here's your cookie.
People are weirdly competitive about that stuff sometimes!

Similar - we used to have a boss that encouraged a work environment oozing with stress. At our weekly staff meetings, we'd have to go around and share our stress level, on a scale of 1 (low) to 10 (high) stress. There were 3 ladies (boss included) that ALWAYS choose a number higher than 10. Always. And the "winner" would bet the pat on the bad from the others. It was terribly eye roll evoking. Go do some yoga, drink a bottle of wine, have more sex - anything but strive for faux martyrdom.

blabla89 · November 2014

SmileDamnit said:

martha1818 said:

Oh man, or how about those people who like to one-up how many hours you work each week?
I have so many friends who humble-brag that they have to put in 80 hours of work a week. Like, congratulations your job is super intense, you must be more important than me! Here's your cookie.
People are weirdly competitive about that stuff sometimes!

Similar - we used to have a boss that encouraged a work environment oozing with stress. At our weekly staff meetings, we'd have to go around and share our stress level, on a scale of 1 (low) to 10 (high) stress. There were 3 ladies (boss included) that ALWAYS choose a number higher than 10. Always. And the "winner" would bet the pat on the bad from the others. It was terribly eye roll evoking. Go do some yoga, drink a bottle of wine, have more sex - anything but strive for faux martyrdom.

We had something similar in our staff meetings, where we went around the table and each had the opportunity to discuss 3 items (questions, client problems, stuff we have to do, etc.) to get input from both managers and the other team members. There were a few people who would always choose the most dramatic, drawn-out, over-the-top stuff even when it didn't need to be discussed in front of the team, just to remind us all of how complicated and important their accounts were. And then they would drag out the discussions about it, and the meeting would always run at least 30 minutes over. Like, don't you guys have REAL work to do?

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martha1818 · November 2014

blabla89 said:

SmileDamnit said:

martha1818 said:

Oh man, or how about those people who like to one-up how many hours you work each week?
I have so many friends who humble-brag that they have to put in 80 hours of work a week. Like, congratulations your job is super intense, you must be more important than me! Here's your cookie.
People are weirdly competitive about that stuff sometimes!

Similar - we used to have a boss that encouraged a work environment oozing with stress. At our weekly staff meetings, we'd have to go around and share our stress level, on a scale of 1 (low) to 10 (high) stress. There were 3 ladies (boss included) that ALWAYS choose a number higher than 10. Always. And the "winner" would bet the pat on the bad from the others. It was terribly eye roll evoking. Go do some yoga, drink a bottle of wine, have more sex - anything but strive for faux martyrdom.

We had something similar in our staff meetings, where we went around the table and each had the opportunity to discuss 3 items (questions, client problems, stuff we have to do, etc.) to get input from both managers and the other team members. There were a few people who would always choose the most dramatic, drawn-out, over-the-top stuff even when it didn't need to be discussed in front of the team, just to remind us all of how complicated and important their accounts were. And then they would drag out the discussions about it, and the meeting would always run at least 30 minutes over. Like, don't you guys have REAL work to do?

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Haha wow this sounds like my old job!

The best is if you leave anytime within 5 oclock (even like, 5:59) and people go "Oh have a good niiiigghtt!" Really loudly to announce that they were still there, while also giving the other "late stayers" the opportunity to martyr themselves/assert themselves as "harder workers." Such an annoying cycle, I'm surprised my eyes aren't stuck at the back of my head from rolling them everyday at that place!

novella1186 · November 2014

Work martyrs are the WORST! My work friend makes sure to tell me, multiple times, if she has to stay more than 5 minutes late (she usually ducks out early cuz she doesn't care much about her job-- her words). I once stayed late every night for two weeks (like 2-3 hours late) and also worked 2 weekends in a row, and didn't mention it. Didn't complain about it. I was helping with a massive project and I actually felt kind of like a badass for accomplishing so much. Plus I wasn't salaried back then so all the overtime pay was awesome!

HaileyDancingbear · November 2014

lolo883 said:

Ah yes, the one-upper. I especially love the ones like "just wait til you have kids, then ___." You say you're tired, they say "just wait til you have kids, you'll really see what tired is." Your kid-related struggles do not automatically trump my non-kid-related struggles, and stop complaining about your damn kids all the time because you're really looking like you don't like them very much.

And then the same people get so surprised when I say I never want kids. Seriously lady, what part of that story you just told about your kid shitting their pants, sticking their hand in their shit, then rubbing it all over everything, and then you having to clean shit all day, did you think was going to make me want kids?

Pretty much every conversation I have with those "just wait till you have kids" parents becomes another point on my fucking novel of a list of reasons I never want kids. "Oh, you haven't slept in HOW MANY DAYS? That's going on the list."

Maggie0829 · November 2014

So I started running on the regular two years ago. Well when you first start out you are slow as hell. I had a goal of running a 5K in under 34 minutes. This was a big goal for me and I was looking forward to my race. Well a week or so before the race myself, H and a group of our friends went out to dinner. One of H's friends who was in town came as well. I was telling him about the race and my goal time. He looked at me and said "Man, you are slow. I ran a 5K in 24 minutes and that was after taking 6 shots of Jack Daniels." I proceeded to look at him for a minute, said "Fuck you" and started talking about something else with H.

jenna8984 · November 2014

I'll admit, I'm probably really obnoxious to my west coast friends. Whenever they post anything about being cold I get all "oooh what is it there- like 72 degrees?! That's nothing, it's 32 in MA and we haven't turned our heat on yet!" It's just me being spiteful that I don't live there anymore but I should probs cut back on those comments hahhahah

@lolo883 My MIL has Munchhausen. She hasn't worked in 5 years because she has "back problems, and neck problems, and celiac, and lactose intolerant, and she's waiting to get disability". She's never going to be eligible for disability because she's fucking fine but she will not admit it.

LabLove86 · November 2014

I have a couple of these friends.

One of them texted me out of the blue to say hey. We hadn't gotten together in a while, so we planned dinner. Half way through dinner I realized - "Oh yeah, this is why its been so long . . . . "

LadyMillil · November 2014

BSC sis is awful for one-upping. Life is a competition to her and I am legit surprised she didn't have a 3 month engagement just so she could "win" and get married first. The current competition is "who will produce the first grandchild" *eye roll* DH and I will have a baby when the time is right for us and we don't care if she has a baby first. She tries to one-up me for everything, and if she can't then she tries to ruin whatever it is. Ex. She spilled her dinner on my wedding dress

rajahmd · November 2014

I can think of at least two right off the bat: one IRL and one online. I had to gradually cut off contact with the real life friend. I just couldn't take the tragedy Olympics anymore. I needed support for things going on in my life, not "well, at least your life is better than mine". Fuck that shit. I haven't spoken to her in years, and my life has been saner for it.

RebeccaFlower · November 2014

Maggie0829 said:

So I started running on the regular two years ago. Well when you first start out you are slow as hell. I had a goal of running a 5K in under 34 minutes. This was a big goal for me and I was looking forward to my race. Well a week or so before the race myself, H and a group of our friends went out to dinner. One of H's friends who was in town came as well. I was telling him about the race and my goal time. He looked at me and said "Man, you are slow. I ran a 5K in 24 minutes and that was after taking 6 shots of Jack Daniels." I proceeded to look at him for a minute, said "Fuck you" and started talking about something else with H.

What a douche. Sometimes I think runners are the best or the absolute worse. I've started running and I'm terrible, but I'm enjoying it and lots of runners minimize the work I've put in. Like how do they not remember their first 5k!? Then others are so supportive, so I've figured out who to talk to and who not to.

Maggie, did you do it!?

RebeccaFlower · November 2014

LadyMillil said:

BSC sis is awful for one-upping. Life is a competition to her and I am legit surprised she didn't have a 3 month engagement just so she could "win" and get married first. The current competition is "who will produce the first grandchild" *eye roll* DH and I will have a baby when the time is right for us and we don't care if she has a baby first. She tries to one-up me for everything, and if she can't then she tries to ruin whatever it is. Ex. She spilled her dinner on my wedding dress

What the fuck!? How did this happen?

pinkcow13 · November 2014

Does this work in reverse? I was telling my coworker friend about my issues with FI who was then my ex from when were were on hiatus. And she said " I'm so glad me and (her ex not ex now name ) have never gone through issues Ike that" Not that I'm gloating, but that was a fucked up comment. I've posted about her before- broke off the engagement 3 times doe to her cheating,etc. Yea, sweetie. Now it's safe to say you guys have not been through issues.

LadyMillil · November 2014

RebeccaFlower said:

LadyMillil said:

BSC sis is awful for one-upping. Life is a competition to her and I am legit surprised she didn't have a 3 month engagement just so she could "win" and get married first. The current competition is "who will produce the first grandchild" *eye roll* DH and I will have a baby when the time is right for us and we don't care if she has a baby first. She tries to one-up me for everything, and if she can't then she tries to ruin whatever it is. Ex. She spilled her dinner on my wedding dress

What the fuck!? How did this happen?

I have no idea how it happened and could be an accident. We had a plated meal. She was sitting next to me eating her main and I was chatting with DH. I had a ballgown so it took up a lot of room on either side of me. It was like she speared the whole chicken breast on her fork and held it over my dress while she tried to take a bit and the chicken fell off the fork on to my dress. I nailed the grace under pressure and she looked bad. Dress had a stain that was removed when the dress was cleaned.

raissyrais · November 2014

Ugh Novella, am I allowed to say that my own sister is like that? She will talk and respond to things I'm talking about but that because she likes the gossip...other than that she throws out :"Wait till you have a kid/get pregnant/work with mentally challenged children"...blablabla. And she's so snooty. She made me feel bad in front of everyone at dinner the other because my expressions are Canadian/American and my accent is not British. Oh and my FI is not a surgeon and I don't live in posh Cheshire as well. Ugh.

charlieyankee03 · November 2014

I DATED a guy that was a serial one-upper and a chronic liar on top of it all. Lets call him John. It was at a point in my life when I was just learning how to say no to people and do things for myself. We had a psychology class together and I was actually dating the guy sitting next to him. I guess John had to one up HIM so he started coming after me. Things naturally cooled down with the other guy and John and I started hanging out more.

I had a motorcycle. He got a (faster) motorcycle. I was a criminal justice/psych major interested in joining the Coast Guard. HE became a criminal justice/psych major interested in joining the Coast Guard. He was an only child who was catered to by both parents and grandparents, who were all well off. When I finally got sick of his crap and broke up with him, he told me that I would never find someone who could BUY ME THE THINGS HE COULD. I couldn't run away fast enough.

He would text me once in a while after we broke up and I would oblige him (not sure why) by telling him what I was up to. Literally Every.Single.Thing I was doing, he was doing too, but better I'm sure. I started dating FI, he started dating a girl that was goingtobeadoctorandwewillbesorichoneday. I moved in with FI, he and his GF moved in together to his family's beach house. It was a constant "look at everything I could have given you". I finally stopped responding to his texts, it was too exhausting.

novella1186 · November 2014

raissyrais said:

Ugh Novella, am I allowed to say that my own sister is like that? She will talk and respond to things I'm talking about but that because she likes the gossip...other than that she throws out :"Wait till you have a kid/get pregnant/work with mentally challenged children"...blablabla. And she's so snooty. She made me feel bad in front of everyone at dinner the other because my expressions are Canadian/American and my accent is not British. Oh and my FI is not a surgeon and I don't live in posh Cheshire as well. Ugh.

Snobs are awful. It's like "oh you don't know what brand your purse is? How cute. I only have Coach purses." K well I don't give a fuck about brands and I'd rather spend money on travelling so good for you.

novella1186 · November 2014

charlieyankee03 said:

I DATED a guy that was a serial one-upper and a chronic liar on top of it all. Lets call him John. It was at a point in my life when I was just learning how to say no to people and do things for myself. We had a psychology class together and I was actually dating the guy sitting next to him. I guess John had to one up HIM so he started coming after me. Things naturally cooled down with the other guy and John and I started hanging out more.

I had a motorcycle. He got a (faster) motorcycle. I was a criminal justice/psych major interested in joining the Coast Guard. HE became a criminal justice/psych major interested in joining the Coast Guard. He was an only child who was catered to by both parents and grandparents, who were all well off. When I finally got sick of his crap and broke up with him, he told me that I would never find someone who could BUY ME THE THINGS HE COULD. I couldn't run away fast enough.

He would text me once in a while after we broke up and I would oblige him (not sure why) by telling him what I was up to. Literally Every.Single.Thing I was doing, he was doing too, but better I'm sure. I started dating FI, he started dating a girl that was goingtobeadoctorandwewillbesorichoneday. I moved in with FI, he and his GF moved in together to his family's beach house. It was a constant "look at everything I could have given you". I finally stopped responding to his texts, it was too exhausting.

What a loser. The bolded makes me laugh. Yes, that's what I want in a life partner. Someone who buys me shit. That's all I need!

jenna8984 · November 2014

RebeccaFlower said:

Maggie0829 said:

So I started running on the regular two years ago. Well when you first start out you are slow as hell. I had a goal of running a 5K in under 34 minutes. This was a big goal for me and I was looking forward to my race. Well a week or so before the race myself, H and a group of our friends went out to dinner. One of H's friends who was in town came as well. I was telling him about the race and my goal time. He looked at me and said "Man, you are slow. I ran a 5K in 24 minutes and that was after taking 6 shots of Jack Daniels." I proceeded to look at him for a minute, said "Fuck you" and started talking about something else with H.

What a douche. Sometimes I think runners are the best or the absolute worse. I've started running and I'm terrible, but I'm enjoying it and lots of runners minimize the work I've put in. Like how do they not remember their first 5k!? Then others are so supportive, so I've figured out who to talk to and who not to.

Maggie, did you do it!?

Totally not saying this to be a douche but my parents brought me to run in annual 5ks starting when I was 5 years old. I loved it and just thought it was fun, I had no idea they were tricking me into exercise lol.

charlieyankee03 · November 2014

novella1186 said:

charlieyankee03 said:

I DATED a guy that was a serial one-upper and a chronic liar on top of it all. Lets call him John. It was at a point in my life when I was just learning how to say no to people and do things for myself. We had a psychology class together and I was actually dating the guy sitting next to him. I guess John had to one up HIM so he started coming after me. Things naturally cooled down with the other guy and John and I started hanging out more.

I had a motorcycle. He got a (faster) motorcycle. I was a criminal justice/psych major interested in joining the Coast Guard. HE became a criminal justice/psych major interested in joining the Coast Guard. He was an only child who was catered to by both parents and grandparents, who were all well off. When I finally got sick of his crap and broke up with him, he told me that I would never find someone who could BUY ME THE THINGS HE COULD. I couldn't run away fast enough.

He would text me once in a while after we broke up and I would oblige him (not sure why) by telling him what I was up to. Literally Every.Single.Thing I was doing, he was doing too, but better I'm sure. I started dating FI, he started dating a girl that was goingtobeadoctorandwewillbesorichoneday. I moved in with FI, he and his GF moved in together to his family's beach house. It was a constant "look at everything I could have given you". I finally stopped responding to his texts, it was too exhausting.

What a loser. The bolded makes me laugh. Yes, that's what I want in a life partner. Someone who buys me shit. That's all I need!

Haha I know! I stayed with him way longer than I should have. It sounds horrible, but I think I only stayed with him so long because I loved his family so much. I wasn't even upset about the breakup until his mom called to say how much she'd miss having me around. I'm not sure how such a sweet woman raised such a douchey son...

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