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Parents walking down the aisle?

fallbride57fallbride57 member
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How did/are you incorporating your parents into the ceremony, as far as walking down the aisle goes?  My dad is walking me down the aisle.  Is it common to have someone escort our mother's down the aisle as well?  His grandfather will be the only grandparent present.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited November 2014
    The parents are not normally part of the processional.  The last person to be seated before the processional begins is the MOB, who is escorted by the person of her choice.  (I had my son walk me to my seat in the front.)  Then the processional begins.
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  • cafarriecafarrie member
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    I guess I had parents/grandparents as part of the "processional" (i.e. there was specific music, they started walking at the wedding start time)

    Order:
    My husband (fiance at the time) walked both his grandmothers to their seats together, then walked back. (it was a very short aisle)
    DH walked my grandma to her seat. then walked back.
    DH walked his parents to their seats together, stayed up front.
    My dad walked my mom to her seat, walked back. 
    Bridesmaids and groomsmen processed as normal.
    My dad walked me down the aisle.

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I had a really small processional (just a MOH and BM) and I wanted to include our mothers. So H walked his mother down, and my brother walked my mother down. 
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  • klk111415klk111415 member
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    If you want to include the mothers in the ceremony, you can present them both with a rose from each of you as a surprise.  My officiant offered that idea.  I've seen some girls have both their mother and father walk them down the aisle to give them away.  I'm not that into that idea (I want to stay traditional with just my dad) but it nice.  
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  • tcnobletcnoble member
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    Those of you who have been married, and not at a church where the side aisles are there for you, if your dad walked your mother down then walked back to escort you... did you arrange to have a side aisle in place or did he walk back up the main aisle?? 
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  • fallbride57fallbride57 member
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    @kk11145... I love that idea, but when did you present the roses to the moms?  I feel like it might be akward to walk down the aisle with my bouquet and a rose for my mom, and then stop and give it to her?

    @tcnoble... great question, I am wondering the same thing!

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  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl member
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    Our order was my brothers each sat one of my step-moms, then our bridal party went, then our FG, then wife went with her parents, then I went with both of my parents.

    I can't say I've paid a lot of attention to how my friends have done it, and most of us have "non-traditional" families. IE: step-parents, same sex parents, single parents. So the traditonal rules often get tossed out the window on this one.
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  • ElcaBElcaB member
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    We included our siblings and parents into the processional, in this order:

    Brother & SIL
    BIL & GF
    MOG & FOG
    MOB & Stepdad
    Flower girls
    FOB & Bride
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  • klk111415klk111415 member
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    @fallbride57  Your officiant would hold the roses for you, give a reading and you would take the roses from your officiant, or a table or however you set it up and give them to your mothers.  

    Here is some ceremony readings: 

    And here is another example (you have to scroll down to see it)

    I'm strongly considering this because even though it's an important day in our own lives,  our mom's have been waiting for this day and deserve a little shout out for everything they have done for us from birth on.  And surprising them and making them a part of your ceremony will make them feel so loved! :)
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  • klk111415klk111415 member
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    Oh, and although I haven't planned it out yet- I've seen the mother of the bride escorted down the aisle by a groomsmen (who then walked back on the side to then escort the bridesmaid) but she could also be escorted by a family member (depending on if you have a brother, uncle, grandfather or cousin to step in)
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    Traditional formal seating:

    Groom's grandparents

    Bride's grandparents

    Groom's parents

    MOB with an escort of her choice - this is the musician's cue to begin the processional music. If FOB will be seating her, the processional music should start after he has returned back up the aisle. No need for a side aisle as long as the musician knows that Dad will be walking back to get you.  

    Processional:

    Groom and best man walk to the ceremony area with the officiant

    Gm and bm walk in pairs or the gm may walk first and stand with the groom.

    MOH

    FG and RB

    Pause until aisle is clear. The moms will stand, which will cue the guests to stand.

    Bride and her father


    If the groom chooses to walk with both his parents, the BM may either walk behind them or he may escort the MOH.

    If bride chooses to be escorted by both her parents, the MOG is the last person seated. If any of the parents/grandparents are single/widowed, they may choose an escort to walk with them.










                       
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  • klk111415klk111415 member
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    MairePoppy said:

    Traditional formal seating:

    Groom's grandparents

    Bride's grandparents

    Groom's parents

    MOB with an escort of her choice - this is the musician's cue to begin the processional music. If FOB will be seating her, the processional music should start after he has returned back up the aisle. No need for a side aisle as long as the musician knows that Dad will be walking back to get you.  

    Processional:

    Groom and best man walk to the ceremony area with the officiant

    Gm and bm walk in pairs or the gm may walk first and stand with the groom.

    MOH

    FG and RB

    Pause until aisle is clear. The moms will stand, which will cue the guests to stand.

    Bride and her father


    If the groom chooses to walk with both his parents, the BM may either walk behind them or he may escort the MOH.

    If bride chooses to be escorted by both her parents, the MOG is the last person seated. If any of the parents/grandparents are single/widowed, they may choose an escort to walk with them.










    That clears things up, thanks for sharing that!
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  • jenijoykjenijoyk member
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    We incorporated our parents in a few ways. Before the processional started, but after the officiant asked guests to find their seats and turn off their phones, DH's grandparents walked out from the back and took their seats. Then DH walked both his parents to their seats. And then DH took his place at the front. Then the processional music started. Then wedding party. Then I was escorted out by both my parents.

    During the ceremony, we included our parents in our vows. Instead of "I do's" we did "We do's" and had the last questions be for our parents...

    Officiant: "Jenijoy and Groom, I ask of you both, do you [insert promise here]?"

    Us: "We do."

    [Repeat, repeat, repeat]

    Officiant: "Jane and John, do you promise to support your daughter Jenijoy in her marriage to Groom, and promise to take Groom as a part of your family?"

    My parents stood up and said, "We do."

    Officiant: "MIL and FIL, do you promise to support your son Groom in his marriage to Jenijoy and promise to take Jenijoy as a part of your family?"

    His parents stood up and said, "We do."

    All parents then sat down and we went into the rings business.

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