When we first got engaged one of my aunts asked if we were having kids at our wedding (this was at Thanksgiving last year when we announced our engagement). We stated that we were going to invite cousins and our niece but that is all. Now 3 weeks ago we had a family halloween party and my great aunt was there. My mom was talking with some people about how it would be hard to do a seating assignment for whatever reason. Her aunt then told her it won't be hard because we could put (listed some kids together) and proceeded to tell her who to sit with who. This particular woman is known to be opinionated and we all just kid of accept it. Here is the issue. She listed her great granddaughter (who is something like my 4th cousin maybe?) who wasn't going to be invited.
My FI and I have talked and decided just to let her come because its one child that we do not want to exclude. Our goal for the wedding is cause no conflict (my sisters wedding was all drama and we learned from that). However, I am sure more of this is to come. Suggestions on 1. dealing with over opinionated family members without offending them, 2. deal with people wanting to bring their children