Mother wants to dress too young. Help please

Re: Mother wants to dress too young. Help please

• lilacck28 member

  

  June 2014 edited June 2014

  Do you have pictures of dresses she's been looking at? 

  
  

  Unless what she chose is extremely unflattering (like, it is way too tight and gives her a honey boo boo pot belly) or has cutouts/ is see through or shows her vagina, I don't think you should say anything to her about what she chooses to wear. Cute short dresses need not be worn by young women to look good. She's a grown woman and gets to decide what she wears. And why would her looking good be awkward for your fiance's family or your father's? If anything, your father's family may be like "damn. How'd he let her get away?" which may be exactly what your mother is going for.

  
  

  I would, however, think it is fine to tell her that you don't want her to wear the same exact dress as your bridesmaids. 

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2014

  You could take a photo of her in the dress she wants to wear and then tell her, "Mom, that dress doesn't look good on you.  I'd consider a different dress."  I agree with @lilacck28 that you can also tell her, "Mom, I'd really rather you didn't dress the same as the bridesmaids.  It could get confusing."
  
  Beyond that, I'd leave it a lone.
  

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• labro member

  

  June 2014

  What other pp's said. My mom will be 52 at our wedding. I'd actually be disappointed if she chose to wear something old and matronly looking. She's 52...she's not dead! It sounds like your mom is proud of her new body, as she should be! Go shopping with her and help her find something that flatters her new shape (and take her age out of the picture). When I shop with my mom we shop for something that fits her very petite frame. I don't go in thinking oh she is 52 so she can only wear boatnecks or "mom" style jeans. In fact, I think her style is a million times better now than it was 20 years ago and she looks younger than ever.

  
  

  
  

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• zitiqueen member

  

  June 2014

  soontobemrssawyer said:

  So my mom has recently lost a lot of weight (and i am so proud of her) but she is asking and wanting to wear something someone HALF her age should wear and wants to match the bridesmaids. My mother is in her mid 50's and she wants to wear something "Sexy" and "flattering" which to me might look awkward for not only my fiances side of the family but also my fathers side who hasnt seen her since my parents got a divorce 20 years ago. How can i tell her i want her to wear something more age appropriate and not matching my bridesmaids? 
  
  (It will be flattering but more appropriate to someone her age) 

  You can't. She's an adult who is capable of choosing her own clothes.

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  June 2014

  The mothers get to wear whatever they want, but, you might be able to encourage her to wear something sexy, but classy. Offer to shop with her and please don't try to steer her toward the frumpy dresses. I like the idea of photographing her in the dresses she likes because cameras are so honest. 

  
  

  
  

                     

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• Lauderdale Pink member

  

  June 2014

  Have you gone shopping with her or seen pictures of her ideas?  Has she tried on any of her ideas?  The image and the reality are often miles apart, or you may be over thinking what she views as "sexy" for herself.  Sounds like a good time for a mom an daughter shopping trip.  I thought I looked very sexy at my daughter's wedding, but the dress was actually fairly conservative by everyones standards. In my mind, sexy was a strapless, sweetheart neckline.

  
  

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• soontobemrssawyer member

  

  June 2014

  I talked to my mom a few nights ago and voiced my concerns. She understood where i was coming from and we looked at a few dresses together. We actually found a few that we both agree on after a few minor fights about dresses. I know she can dress herself but its my wedding and i want her to look nice and like my mom that ive grown up with. Were going to go shopping after i come home from a business trip. 

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• futuremrsbecker2015 member

  

  November 2014

  omg my mom wants to do the same thing

  she wants to be  the star of the show

  

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• fwtx5815 member

  

  December 2014

  futuremrsbecker2015 said:

  omg my mom wants to do the same thing

  she wants to be  the star of the show

  Your mother could wear a pnina gown and you could wear denim overalls and you would still be the "star of the show" because you are the one getting married. The fact that you're so worried about not getting enough attention screams immature.

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• amelisha member

  

  December 2014

  I'm just gonna copy-past this from another thread I replied to...

  
  

  Your mother is an adult and adults get to choose their own clothing unless in an employment situation. It is inappropriate for you to tell your mother what to wear, period. If she shows up in nipple tassels and a fishnet thong, that only reflects on her, not you. It's not your problem and it doesn't affect you.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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