Alternative to bridesmaids?

Re: Alternative to bridesmaids?

• levioosa member

  

  February 2015

  Your responses will be the same here, and I don't know what was wrong with the other ones.
  
  Ask them to do a reading and/or give them corsages and ask them to get ready with you.  Don't ask them to be in a house party, stand by the guest book, decorate, or pass out programs.  Those are jobs, not honors.  If these girls mean so much to you, why can't you have them in the BP?  Your WP should consist of those who are nearest and dearest to you. 
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• njbride2015 member

  

  February 2015

  Thanks - not looking to give anyone 'jobs' to do.  

  
  

  These are articles I've read - I'm really asking if anyone has experienced something along these lines firsthand and had some good feedback:

  
  

  http://lover.ly/planning/wedding-planning/alternatives-to-having-a-traditional-bridal-party/15203/

  
  

  http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/08/bridesmaid-alternatives-a-compendium/

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• levioosa member

  

  February 2015

  dmnj said:

  Thanks - not looking to give anyone 'jobs' to do.  

  
  

  These are articles I've read - I'm really asking if anyone has experienced something along these lines firsthand and had some good feedback:

  
  

  http://lover.ly/planning/wedding-planning/alternatives-to-having-a-traditional-bridal-party/15203/

  
  

  http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/08/bridesmaid-alternatives-a-compendium/

  If you follow the advice of that terrible Bridesmaids Alternatives article you will be offending your "non-bridesmaids" AND giving them jobs.  Making them wear a different color, asking them to help out and bake your bridal shower treats or making them put together your invitations are not honors, they are jobs.  Calling them out in the program is unnecessary and can result in hurt feelings.  Those things are not "offbeat," they are rude. 
  
  Seriously, what is wrong with asking them to get ready with you, getting them a corsage, or just asking them to be in the BP?  Why are you making it so complicated for yourself?  Take them out to lunch, have a girls night out, get ready with them on the day of the wedding, give them corsages, have them do a reading.  You are making this way more complicated than it needs to be.
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• artbyallie mod

  

  February 2015

  If you do this you are going to hurt people's feelings. That's not 'offbeat,' that's rude. I don't care how you spin it.

  

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