Is it silly to have an engagement party if we have a short engagement?????

Maggie0829 · March 2015

@lovemesomemonster - You know I could say the same about you being "very passionate" about this as well since you felt the need to respond. Welcome to a public forum where the entire point of this place is to have discussions and express your opinion. If I see something I don't agree with I will say I don't and then give my reasons. That is not me being "very passionate" but just doing what everyone else on this forum does.

As for my opinion on this topic, it still stands. You invite me to an engagement party 6 months after the engagement occurred, I will side eye you. Period.

Maggie0829 · March 2015

dallasbetch said:

dallasbetch said:

Maggie0829 said:

Yes an engagement is a finite thing. But the engagement party is to celebrate the accepted proposal. To celebrate something MONTHS after the fact is just down right dumb. If I got invited to an engagement party 6 months after the actual proposal took place and 4-5 months before the wedding I would think that the couple was crazy. The time for you to celebrate your proposal was 5 months ago, not now. Now is the time to celebrate your upcoming wedding with showers and bach parties.
I would think you're crazy for thinking the couple is crazy. But that's neither here nor there.

To the second bolded - Not everyone has one or both of those types of parties while they're engaged. Those are the times where I think an engagement party is A-OK pretty much whenever. But yes if it's a short engagement with filled with bach parties and showers, I'd would say skip it. I wouldn't think someone is weird for having one, I would just hope that they'd adjust their expectations of who can attend what parties.

And as far as the timeliness and the idea that nobody would want to celebrate it months later, I only saw my parents and 1 of my close friends before my engagement party. So it's not like we socialized with tons of people and then wanted a party just for the heck of it.

Idk I just think this is something that people want to put a rule on and the reasoning behind the rule doesn't make a whole lot of sense. I probably at one point have advocated for a 3-month or less rule here on TK but I never stopped to think about why it should matter.

I'm sorry but I think celebrating something long after that thing already occurred (whether it be a graduation, a birthday, an engagement, a new baby, a new job, a new hair or a new outfit...whatever it may be) just makes that person look like a AW.

And yes, I understand that not everyone gets a bridal shower or a bach party. But just because they aren't thrown them doesn't make it, in my eyes, okay to have an engagement party in their place.

I turned 30 this past year. Me being 30 is finite, just like an engagement. But I would not in a million years go out a celebrate my birthday now, 6 months, after I turned 30. Why? Because I would look silly. Just because I may have thought turning 30 was a big deal (actually I didn't, but lets just say I did for this example) doesn't mean I should expect everyone else around me to be just as excited about it long after my birthday occurred. Same goes for an engagement. When you first get engaged everyone is excited for you, but IMO, once you set a wedding date then people get more excited about your wedding and your engagement just doesn't seem quite as huge as it did when it first happened.

Now if the couple wants to celebrate their engagement, just the two of them, every day up until their wedding then go ahead. But to ask family and friends to celebrate something months after it happened is just AWish.

Aside from the facts that getting engaged to someone is completing different than turning another year older, and people do actually delay their bday celebrations sometimes, yeah I totally get what you're saying. Yep.

If they delay by waiting until that weekend, okay. But to delay by months and months, then that is ridiculous.

MGP · March 2015

Look, I don't care what it is. An engagement, baby, promotion, birthday, whatever. It doesn't matter if the time period is finite or eternal. People's excitement and attention for someone else's milestone can only last so long. That ship sails and sails quickly. Celebrate before it becomes inconvenient and burdensome, or expect some declines and eye rolling.

Yes, I am in a bad mood today.

mj8215 · March 2015

I say go for it! My best friend threw us an amazing engagement party, 5 months after we got engaged and 6 months before our wedding. We had a great time and the world did not stop turning! Our reasons were similar - with both of our schedules, and those of our friends, it was pretty difficult to find a day no one was working. My friend offered two months after we got engaged and the day we had it was actually the earliest day that worked for everyone.
Enjoy your party!

theartistformerlyknownas · March 2015

Add me to the list of people who would think it's weird to have a delayed e-party. It's meant to celebrate the act of the engagement - the actual proposal - not the entire span of time during which you're engaged. If enough time has passed that I've already congratulated you, it's time to let it go.

Parents want to host a party? Call it a meet and greet between the two families.

Is it silly to have an engagement party if we have a short engagement?????

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