~I really hope this thread is in the right category I'm sorry if it's not.~
WARNING: This is going to be long.
So
to start, as the title states, my wedding was a huge disappointment.
There was so much miscommunication going on it's not a big surprise that
things went wrong.
Okay so, first thing my fiance at the time was
stubborn and did not want more than 2 groomsmen in the party, I had four
bridesmaids: Three cousins, and my good friend as my Maid of Honor. I
told him that the girls would be walking down the aisle and I would like
them to have escorts. He grumbled and did nothing. Weeks later so like
in March we started hanging out with some of my old friends (two guys
and a girl). He really enjoyed hanging out with them and decided he
wanted them in the wedding. Well by this point the tuxes for the Groom
and the two groomsmen (and my brother who was supposed to walk me down
the aisle) were already paid for and we didn't have the money to get two
more tuxes. I felt horrible for that. So the girl decided that in order
to get the ball rolling so the guys could be in the wedding, she took
them shopping to get white buttons shirts, dress pants and vests.
Awesome! Those boys looked better than the guys in tuxes. No joke. But I
felt like a steamy pile of dog crap because I wanted them in wedding (a
little late in the game) and I couldn't afford tuxes for them.
So
then the night before at the rehearsal dinner, hardly anyone showed up.
My mom spent so much money on food to have it not get eaten because
people didn't show up. My MOH, her two kids, one of my cousins, My aunt
(the mother of the two who did not show up), the pastor, his wife, my
brother, my two guys friends and the girl, my mom, my husband's mom (who
didn't talk to anyone but my husband) and two of my out of two
relatives. My mom planned for 50. I told her 20-25, she did not listen.
Before
those two events, the printers messed up the invitations. I ordered
custom designed invites with their help, told them the colors that I
wanted. They printed a sample that I loved. Two weeks later I go back in
to get them, they are not right at all. They look nothing like the
sample invite. My colors were raspberry and gold. The colors on the
sample invite were a slightly darker color than raspberry (which was
fine, it looked very pretty), and yellowish-gold, more like a really
shiny yellow (which was pretty.) They gave me red and mustard yellow.
Basically they gave me ketchup and mustard wedding invitations. I showed
them the sample they gave me and told them the invites were wrong. "Oh
you should have told us that's what you wanted. It's gonna be another
two weeks and another $60." This was the same lady who helped me design
them. She denied up and down that it was somebody else who helped me
because she did not remember helping me before. My mother who was their
with me got upset and blamed me for making her upset and said "They look
fine, you are just nitpicking. I'm not waiting another two weeks nor am
I paying $60 more to get what you want. You're gonna have to live with
what they did for you." Not to mention we planed 100 people coming to
the wedding, but not everyone was getting their own invite (mom's idea
again), we got 100 invites. I still have 60 invites sitting in my
closet.
When we were picking out my dress, we went to a store that
said they had a great reputation. They had me try on 6 different dresses
that I hated. The last one everyone ooohed and ahhhed at, but I felt
like I was wearing a curtain. The sales lady looked at me and said "This
is your dress. It's on sale for $600. I'll ring you up at the front." I
told her I wasn't as sure as she was that this was my dress. She got
upset. My MOH wanted to look at dresses for her and the other
bridesmaids. Okay cool. We found really pretty ones about $200 each. Not
bad. A little out of my price range. I cashed in savings bonds (that
weren't even matured) to pay for these dresses.
We ordered raspberry
colored dresses. The didn't come in until the second week of April.
Okay. The colors didn't match each other. One was bright and the other
one was dark. What the hell? Why can't anyone get colors right? Again my
mother "the color is fine you are nitpicking. Can't you just appreciate
the work they did for you?" Well yeah... I can... but still I have been
screwed by vendors up until this point.
Then we ordered the cake. I
drew her a picture and labeled everything I wanted. She said "Oh that's
easy. Buttercream and no fondant. Three layers, circular, fountain on
the bottom? Easy." Day of the wedding: Fondant. And the fountain stopped
working before we could take pictures.
We ordered food from a
caterer, paid $1000, we told her what we wanted to eat that day. She
said it was simple (I've heard that before). We said we had plates,
silverware, cups and table covers already. She said okay. Day of the
wedding: "We brought you plates and silverware because we weren;t sure
if you had your own." "But I told her we had that stuff." "Yeah....
we're still gonna use ours." Kay, I spent a lot of time and money
looking and buying the right plates that went with my theme. I actually
found star shaped plates, which were gold! They were cute! They worked.
Nope, nobody even used them. They didn't use the two other plates I set
out for them either.
So the same bridal shop that we ordered dresses
from, we ordered tuxes from. They said "The tuxes will be here the week
before the wedding so that there will be plenty of time to get
alterations if need be." The tuxes came in two days before the wedding.
My brother's tux did not fit. The jacket, the vest and shirt were all
too tight and the pants were too big. They were the wrong size! How is
that possible if they measured him?! They said "Oh, well we can make
alterations, come pick it up tomorrow at 11am." My brother goes and gets
it (and mind you that is that day of the rehearsal and at that time we
were decorating the hall, getting the music ready, etc.) it still
doesn't fit. They didn't make any alterations. For his trouble they gave
him $50 back out of $200. >.< They also got my name wrong {Knox
Nozack}. My name is/was Nox Novak. and the date wrong (didn't find that
out until my brother gave me the receipt for the tux) they put May 20th.
My wedding was May 2nd. >.< They made little attempt to fix
anything. They didn't fix anything. I was just supposed to live with
their mistakes. No apologies at all. Nothing.
My dress had been in
alterations for 2 months before the wedding. They lady was nice. We did 6
fittings. Now the 5th time, she said "This is the last time you will
have to try on the dress since your wedding is a week away. I just need
to press it and your veil. So next time all you have to do it is come
pick it up." Okay that's cool. We go the last time and as we are walking
back to the dressing room, she says "Natasha (again not my name) let's
get you into the dress so I can see what I need to do next for the
dress. Your wedding day is the 12th so we will have another fitting
after this." "Ma'am my wedding is Saturday the 2nd. You said last time
that that was the last fitting. All we had to do is pick it up, because
you had to press it and the veil." "No I did not. I always have a final
fitting with the bride, plus I haven't fixed the bead that fell off or
pressed it yet." She got upset that she had to work fast on the dress
that day because we didn't have time to come back another day. When she
was done, she slammed the dress in the car and stormed back inside. The
day of the wedding: There was a huge noticeable run on the front
overlay.
Also at the wedding and before my mom could not set aside
her differences with the MOH. She kept berating her and her kids at
every little thing. My MOH was great, she did everything she was asked
to do. I don't know why my mom kept treating her like crap. My MOH was
respectful and nice to her, she even went out of her way to make my mom
comfortable. Then my dad's side of the family said maybe a sentence to
me at the wedding even when I went over and sat with them. They didn't
even look at me until they were leaving. They focused more on my
brother. My grandmother on my mom's side and my aunt decided to stay
home too. They didn't want to come my wedding and support me. Oh my
cousin (who is still in high school) had prom the same night. She didn't
tell me that she would be wearing the bridesmaid dress to her prom.
That really bothered me and still does. I bought he f***ing prom dress.
Everyone commented on how beautiful she was at MY WEDDING! People came
up and said that to me! The bride! Does that really happen? Should I
feel angry and upset about that? Because I do. But do I have a right to?
My
wedding was a major disappointment. No one listened to me. I felt
ignored and alienated. I don't know what to do, I feel so depressed. Not
one vendor actually cared to listen to me. My wedding was a
disappointment and a disaster. I don't know what to do about my family,
if I tell them how I feel they will disown me (they did that to my dad
when he was still alive. They barely gave him the time of day let alone
acknowledged him.) I wish my wedding had worked out the way I visioned
it.
Good things that happened: I married my best friend.
TLDR: Some stuff happened. Wedding ruined and disappointed by it. BLAH BLAH BLAH.
Edit: I put my post back up, for a few reasons. I'm going to be adult about this.
I'm sorry if things got out of hand. I just really wanted to get all of this off of my chest. I'm sorry if I annoyed you guys with this post.