Hello. I've searched the other thread for an answer to my question and couldn't quite find one.
My bridal shower is going to be at my parents house and my mom and bridesmaids are all graciously hosting. I am inviting my female relatives and close friends. Adding in my fiances family brought the total to 50. I asked my mom if this was ok and she said it was. Moving forward, fiances sister sent my MOH a guest list of their family members and there were 20 extra people whom I do not even know!
Their side of the family invites everyone and their second cousins twice removed to everything. Fiances mom wants me to have the shower at a banquet hall, which I do not want at all. So overwhelming. I see some people have multiple showers to keep the guest list small. How do I go about saying "I feel like a greedy gift grabber inviting people I don't know, if they want to come you can host another shower?" I feel rude suggesting that to his mom and I feel rude excluding his family. I think my MOH was going to say something to his sister like "thanks for the list, but Bride wants to keep it close friends and family". I don't know the right way to keep my shower small and intimate without hurting feelings. This should be fun, not stressful. Any suggestions would be appreciated!