I keep reading things on here about people inviting themselves to weddings and was thinking I was getting off pretty good so far (probably because I don't talk about it much and we've been together so long some people just look at us like we are married). Fast forward to this last weekend and we were staying at FIs parent's house to attend a wedding there. I got ready with his little brother's girlfriend (they have a kid and are basically married, let's just call her a future SIL) and she asks where the bachelorette party will be and I told her Sonoma for wine tasting. Her response was "that's awesome, I know a lot of people that work down there and can probably get us discounts on tasting".. Um, what? I'm not planning my own party, the MOH has taken care of all of it and it was just going to be the four girls in the wedding and me. I'm going to talk to MOH about this situation, I just smiled and walked away but now it's a weird spot to be in, she is family so I didn't want to just come out and say "yeah, you're not invited".
We are only 3 weeks out (doing it early for time share reasons) so one thought is invite by word of mouth knowing there is about a 10% chance she goes anyways. What would you all do? This is not a person I hardly see and don't really care about, she is family! The whole thing just made me uncomfortable, I was not involved in planning any of it and I shouldn't have been, not like a shower where she asked me for a list of people to invite and we worked numbers together.