I can't sleep, I am so excited for my first wedding event! The only details I know is the date and my friend is picking me up at 9am for a morning of pampering ourselves before then she will take me to undisclosed location!! I have a small group of friends but they are all so wonderful! Just needed to say that because I feel so blessed.
1. So now comes why I awoke at 3am in a panic! Someone at work told me that my FI and I were rude because he won't be attending the whole shower. (He is coming the last 30 minutes to say his thank yous and help load gifts up after everyone leaves). It is NOT a jack and jill and he doesn't want to come. To be honest I do not want him there. It is all about the closest females in my life... and he is the closest person but not a female.
2. I got gifts mailed to me pre shower so the guest would not have to lug them to the shower. Thank you note already sent and I have thanked her face to face as well (we have seen each other since then). Now I feel like I should say Auntie got me this and say something or no??
3. Last night my FMIL called my FI to say that she is coming down to our house 2 hours early (thank you for the pampering!!!!!). She then states she is bringing his brothers and fathers (and her young grandchildren. Then they are to drive her and brother's SO to shower. Then FI needs to entertain them until it is time to pick them up. Now I told him they need to be on their own for the last 30 minutes because he will be at the shower. He suggested just bringing them. The venue is adult only. Therefore I told him this wasn't an option. He said he felt kind of bad and I agreed but reminded him that his mother made these plans involving us without discussing it with us and therefore it is not my problem. That he should have told her on the spot so he can deal with it but they can't come to the shower. Yes they can come when it is over but that is it. Now full disclosure his mother and I have had our issues in the past. I won't get into it here. But now I am wondering if I am being to hard on them because I don't like how she made plans and told us our involvement for my bridal shower rather than asking. Would we be rude if my FI still comes the last 30 minutes like we have planned all along and having the other people entertain themselves during that time? Should we change our plans to accommodate what MIL says?