I'm having a dilemma about changing my last name, and I have 10 days to decide...
I am "plain white" (a mix of various eastern European countries), and FI is Chinese. I have no particular attachment to my last name, especially as it was not the one my dad was born with, but something he chose as an adult because he wanted something easier to pronounce/spell, so picked the closest-sounding English name. My last name is very ordinary - think something like Johnson or Martin.
I always wanted to keep my last name in some way, partly because of work (I've built some degree of professional reputation that I don't want to lose), and partly because with my blond-ish hair and blue eyes, I'm clearly not Chinese. I always think of the Seinfeld episode with Donna Chang... and in general, making your life resemble a Seinfeld episode just doesn't sound like a good idea! (
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Chinese_Woman) Maybe amusing at first, but not when I have to live with it for the rest of my life.
However, it means a lot to FI and his family that I take his last name, as he's the last male on his dad's side so it's up to us to "carry the name," and apparently it's "not the same" if I don't share the name too. So I was planning on hyphenating...
Although I think the hyphenated name sounds fine as we both have short last names, all of a sudden this week I realized that I would have to sign this new hyphenated name every single time I used my credit card (I put *everything* on my credit card, for the points, but pay it off every month) or sign my name, and I'd have to spell it out all the time. No it's not the end of the world, but for some reason now I'm really bothered by the idea. So now I don't know what to do...
Do I risk the Donna Chang syndrome and go with the all-out Chinese last name? (But keep my maiden name at work.) Or will it result in a lifetime of annoying encounters? (Yes, my name is "Chang." No, I'm not Chinese. Yes, it's my husband's name....) And isn't it complicated to live with a work name and a social/legal name?
Or, do I just live with the hyphenation?
I would love to hear what other non-Chinese brides have done, or from anyone else who would like to weigh in...
Thank you!