I am the first of my close friends to get married and the oldest non-married girl in my family. There has not been a wedding in my family for many years—and the last one was of a second cousin.
Wedding planning in general is going fine, but there is a whole bunch of other parties associated with a wedding that are not. My aunt called me a week ago and wanted to know what I was doing for a shower. I told her –and very truthfully—that I had never been to a wedding shower and I thought the mothers planned it. She told me that mothers do not plan it and it is more of an aunt, coworker, and friend thing. Anyways, she is the only person to offer to have a shower. She said she would plan it, but seems to be somewhat irritated that I am not helping---I don’t know how to help.
She wants me to pick a theme—she recommended around the clock or a honeymoon themed. Either would be fine and I told her that…but now she seems to want me to pick my own theme. She also wants me to tell her what kind of things I want to do. I told her we could play games (based off the things I see on TV) she asked what games and I couldn’t tell her any. Lastly, she wants me to ask his family and my friends if (which would come off as when) they are hosting a shower. I am uncomfortable doing that; I don’t think his family is going to have one for us and I know my friends don’t have it on their radar—but both would try and get one together if I asked if they were having one.
What should I say? What are good themes and party games for a wedding shower hosted by an aunt? If nobody else has offered to have one by now, is it safe to assume they won’t? I am about 10 weeks out, but will be out of town the majority February.
Also, my friends are getting nervous about the bachelorette party (first one for most of us) and they want me to tell them what I want them to set-up. This one seems less “unknown” because it should just be a really fun girls night. I just wanted ideas of where to go and what to do--dont want to make a newbi error and miss something great. I live in the northern suburbs and we go out in Minneapolis and St. Paul. I like busy place, new/flashy places or activites.
Lastly, I am supposed to plan the groom’s dinner. I am trying to find a cheaper location that can have a semi-private, seated 50 person meal for less then $2,500. I have called places like Glicks, Hell’s Kitchen, 8th Street Grill, and Brit’s, They have all been booked, to expensive or not very good. Any ideas where to go? I am expanding my area (Minneapolis around the convention center), but that opens up so many restaurants.
Anyone been part of more twin cities weddings then I have? I need ideas on these things please.