Hello! I could use some advice! We are both Jewish, but don't have a strong connection to any Rabbi that we'd want to officiate our service. We thought it would be more meaningful and personal to have the groom's older brother and my (the bride) older sister officiate together. We would incorporate the aspects of a Jewish wedding ceremony that are meaningful to us and add our own personal touches.
The Groom's parents don't like this idea for many reasons.
1. They want us to have a Traditional Jewish wedding
2. We are planning to have the wedding on Saturday evening, and Jewish weddings are typically on Sundays
3. Initially we were going to get married in the courthouse prior to the ceremony, and they felt that we were inviting people to watch us "go through the motions."
We have since suggested several compromises such as having my sister obtain her legal status to officiate in our state so that our ceremony would be legally binding (thus no courthouse).
They still are not on board. How do we explain that we are willing to compromise on almost all the wedding details except for the layout and timing of our ceremony?