With 10 days left until my wedding my MOH bailed out. I'm completly devistated.
- I met my fiance because of her. She was so happy when we got together.
- She helped my fiance pick out the wedding ring and she helped plan the propsal.
- She begged me to ask her to be the MOD.
But then....
- She missed my dress shopping.
- She wouldn't try any bridesmaids dresses on.
- She complained for weeks about the hair and make up.
- Since I got engaged 12 months ago she has seen me 6-7 times.
- She complained about any ideas the Bridesmaids had about the bachelorette party.
- With 2 weeks before the bachelorette party, the bridesmaids realized she half put the bachelorette party together so everyone picked up the slack and she said she was happy about that and glad they helped.
- She says she is always busy but before we got engaged she was always coming over to hang out and making time for our friendship.
She has never been in a bridal party and i promise you i never brought any of my frustrations to light i understood she is new at this and maybe couldn't handle it. But then after the bachelorette party(with 1 days before the wedding) she text me and says i wish you and your fiance all the best but it's for the best im not in the wedding. She wouldn't agree to meet with me to talk so instead my fiance called her and explained that we jsut need to talk and get it all out so can i please come over and talk so i did...She says she was having panic attacks and anxiety about being in the wedding. She wanted me to appoint one of my sisters as the maid of honor but i'm not going to do that. So i told her if she wasn't in the wedding then i wasn't going to replace her because that isn't right. She explained that her boyfriend told her that since she was so stressed she just shouldnt be in the wedding and now she doesnt want to be in it.And we left it at that. But i dont understand what there was to be stressed abou. I've been very easy going planning this wedding by myself. She siad she couldnt go dress shopping i said ok. She complained about the hair and i said my only request is that your hair is up and intact since it's a outside wedding and it will be hot. She only had to by her dress and shoes ($200 max). I'm paying for hair, dress alteration, make up, jewelry, food, hotel, transportation before and after wedding.
I dont want to loose a friend over this but she seemed like she was done being my friend and from a planning stand point i've paid for her and her boyfriend's plate at the reception, ive printed the program post, dress alteration, paid for her hair and make up, spent money on a MOH gift for her, paid for her bouquet. Like im at a lose and she knew how tight our budget was. So if she felt so uncomfortable why didnt she say something to me way before. I might of been more understanding but now i feel like shes just doing it to be cruel. I've been nothing but accommidating to all my bridesmaids and her. They all can't beleive how easy going and budget friendly i've been.